Is the problem with your wrist due to your bendy bones? What makes them bendy? Has your GP referred you to the particular hospital because they are good with bone problems? I didn't mesn to suggest that you change your GP; I just wondered if s/he could find a different hospital where you would not have to wait for so long while you are in pain from your wrist.
It doesn't matter how often you go to your dad's grave; everyone has different ideas of what is right for them. And it doesn't matter; your dad is still your beloved dad who you think about whether you are at his grave or not. You just do what feels right for you and remember the love you had between you which - I know from experience - you will never forget. You just do your own thing. Annie
Yes, I am okay. I won't ask about your bone operations. I don't think you are the only person who has wanted to spend a lot of time at the grave of a loved one; people think all manner of things when they are distressed. You cannot help what you feel. I would be a bit concerned if you actually did it but in my local cemetery - which is a nice place for a walk - I have noticed parents who have lost children sitting quietly at the grave for long periods. Whatever feels right for you. In the early days the grief is still so very raw that you have to do what helps you. It takes a while for the ups and downs of grief to even out but they gradually do and the violent swings of emotion gradually ease off. It just happens over time. Hope you sleep well tonight in your bed! Annie
Hi Annie hope you are okay how are you is your leg ok. Sorry for snapping at you but I was really cross when I wrote the previous message.
My dad will be in my heart for as long as I live. Me and my family are going on holiday next week so I won't be able to message you.
I am also struggling as my Mam's best friend's dad may have bowl cancer. Mam's best friend is also my best friend.
We are in the middle of a heat wave here in Ireland. It is so warm.
I am not coping with my dad's death and they are investigating his death because last June he had a scan and the doctor said that he didn't have cancer, he had another scan in September last and he was diagnosed with terminal cancer in october and was given 6 months to live.
Hi DaddyImissyou, I'm very sorry to hear about your dad, it sounds like you're going through such a tough time at the moment. It's great that you've been finding it helpful chatting to AnnieLiz, and that you have some good friends in 'real life' that you can confide in; talking is so important.
With that in mind, I thought I'd share a couple of other links which might be helpful. The first is to the website RipRap - it's specifically set up for young people who have a parent with cancer. They have a section on their site which covers when a parent has died. They also have an online forum: www.riprap.org.uk/support/forums/
As many of the people on Cancer Chat say, there's no right or wrong way to grieve. You're doing the right thing in sharing how you feel and reaching out for support. We're here to listen. I do hope that you're able to find some support on those sites I've linked to, too.
