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Coping with the loss of my mom I feel

B_G1
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Hi all! I lost my mom 7 weeks ago, I am 30, my mom was 62 and I have a 9 month old daughter. Initially I was coping and focussed all of my energy into my daughter but I’m finding myself being very upset and teary in this last week. I have a great family and husband but when I’m on my own I get very upset thinking and missing my mom so much. She was my best friend so I feel I’ve lost a huge part of my world, not sure how to make coping with loss easier for myself apart from keeping busy! I feel she’s been taken far too young and is missing so much of my daughter growing up. 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, B_G1,

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. On behalf of all the team here at Cancer Chat please accept our sincere condolences. 

    We have some information here about coping with grief and hopefully, it will help you to come to terms with your loss.

    Thinking of you all at this difficult time,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    I lost my mum 3 years ago and she was only 70, but a fit 70 year - happy to run around playing football with her 5 grandkids, even when she was going through chemo.  I lost her a week after my 3rd little boy was born and my hormones were everywhere. There is no other bond like a bond between a mum and daughter....

    Its really hard, even 3 years on I still feel angry and sad that she was taken away from us from this horrible disease.  I dont think you really get over it, but you just learn to remember the happy times - afterall, that is what she'd want, rather than remembering her in pain or feeling unwell.  I still cry when she misses something special that the kids are doing, its only natural, but I have friends around me to help pick me up.  My friends always say that she can see what they are doing, she wont be missing anthing from where she is watching.... that is my hope and gives me strength.

  • Offline in reply to LAP
    Thanks for your reply. Yeh it’s very difficult and like you I feel angry she was taken too young and far too soon! I hate the fact my daughter is growing up knowing just one nan and of course we will make my moms memory live on but she would have given anything to be here with us and my daughter. You’re right there is no bond like a mother and daughters l. Thanks, I will keep thinking of the happy times as this does help. I really hope they are watching down on us as that gives comfort.

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