Hi there so sorry you lost your mum ... it's one of the hardest things we go through in life .. l remember well the numb feeling .. like your in a bad dream, and your waiting for someone to tell you it didn't happen, you were just dreaming ... but deep down that empty feeling in the pit of your stomach tells you you were right ...

Now my mum had something she wanted put in her coffin so me and my sis went together ... it wasn't my mum there, my mum was warm and loving and full of life ... that was just her shell ... it was o.k and I was proud we did her last wish ... but it's hard to get that out of my head ... when my dad passed a couple of years later, l didn't go ... I wanted to remember him, as the B F G  that loved our kids and always doing little magic tricks and making up little stories at bedtime ... I'm glad l didn't go .. and l know l did the right thing ... 

If and when l go... l hope my lads don't go and see me in the chapple of rest ... l don't want them to see that ... so all l can say is, listen to your heart ... and trust it knows what to do ... your mum's not there, she's right there in your heart ... you carry her with you .. you are a part of her ... so be at piece whatever you decide to do ...  sending you a vertual hug ... Chrissie

Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. My mum died suddenly from cancer 10 weeks ago. She died at home so I got to spend a few hours with her before the doctor and undertakers could come. I don’t know if I’d recommend you seeing her or not. It is very upsetting seeing someone you love passed away as after a few hours their skin colour changes. But then again it was almost peaceful getting to spend time with her and saying things I didn’t get to say when she was alive. There isn’t a right or wrong answer to this. I think you just go with your instinct.

sending hugs

xxx