Hello nathanbl1991 and welcome to our forum.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, on behalf of everyone here at Cancer Chat I send you our sincere condolences.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

Best wishes,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Nathan .... so sorry to hear you lost your wonderfull mum ... but listening to how much you cared for her, l bet she'd be really proud to have had a son like you too ...

Take care , and l believe they stay close, and keep an eye on us ... and she'll live in your heart forever ... Chrissie x

Hi i lost my mum last sat i cant sleep any night i am starting to feel off myself. I just keep seeing her face as i close my eyes and im desperate to get some sleep.

My mum died of cancer snd i saw her the day she died i wanted to see her after but she wasnt in a good way becsuse of the cancer so it was recomemended i didnt.

We are still struggling because last year i lost my dad to cancer to i dont feel i have had chance to get over this. We are now here again .

I feel a bit vunerable at the moment and lost i sm carrying on with work and looking after my husband and children but sometimes feel resentful that other people are ok and havnt had any tragedy as we have.

My brother gets married this year and we have no parents to go to the wedding.

All of my mums 2 sisters that are still slive are both older than my mum and they are fit i find myself thinking how come they are ok and then start to feel bad. I dont sleep at the moment im constantly tired then find myself watching tv or playing games on my phone which obviously stops me sleeping. 

I feel very run down and a bit stressed at times i have a headache from not sleeping and a mouth full of ulcers now 

What do you all suggest to help me 

Thankyou 

Kathryn 

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Hi Nathan,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum and offer my sincere sympathy. It sounds to me as if you did everything you could for your mum whilst she was alive, so you have nothing to chastise yourself for. Is this the first close family member that you have lost? Losing any loved one is hard but losing your mum is the hardest of all. She is the one person who has been with you all of your life. She has moulded the person you are and I’m sure that she was very proud of you.

Do you have any other siblings or family to help you through this difficult time? I lost my mum 20 years ago and I still miss her dreadfully. I keep a photo of her in my living room and have found this of great consolation at times throughout those years. Like Chrissie, I believe that she is watching over me and I strive to continue to make her proud. I’m sure that you will do likewise.

You have a hard time ahead of you, as grief is different for everyone. I have found that I will never forget her, but acceptance comes with the passage of time.

We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine