Welcome to Cancer Chat Jammol although I'm sorry to read what a tough time you and your family have had over the last few months and I would like to offer my condolences on the passing of your mum and brother.

I can't being to imagine what you're going through right now but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. You may find it comforting to read this recent discussion on the forum where some of our members are sharing their thoughts and feelings on coping with the loss of their mothers. Do feel free to join in as our members are very supportive and will do what they can to help. 

Do make sure you get some help for yourself if you are finding it difficult to cope at the moment Jammol. Your GP can point in the direction of resources that may be available to you and your dad at this time so do book in with them to let them know what's going on. You may also benefit from bereavement counselling. If you'd like to find out more, just click here.

Best wishes to you all at this difficult time, 

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi there ... so sorry I missed your thread ... no wonder your worn out ... I think wer Simerla to a battery when things come along like this ... and you sound like your running on flat ... be kind to your heart , and understand any one of those things is enough to wear you down emotionally ... and you've had one after another ...

I know as I had a lot going on emotionally with me and family at mo ... and no matter what, I have to take one or two (if I'm lucky) to just stop and have a day just for me, and when I do the next day I feel ready to start again ... as the battery is nearly fully charged ... no wonder you just want it all to stop ...

Practically if I was you, I'd look at it like , your mum's now with your brother ... she's by his side and he's not alone up there ... and I bet they are both looking down on the two of you, and are so proud of what your trying to do for your dad ... next, phone McMillan for advice with your dad ... and they may have info how you could get someone round his for helping with one or two meals ... or get him some ready meals that just need microwaving. . Then explain to your dad you need a day or maybe two, where you need time for you , and you do love him and will support him as much as you can, just not every day ...

Maybe McMillan could get your dad someone to talk too or counselling. . Just know you are human, and not superwoman ... so now realise just how amazing you have been ... and you must look after you too ... so sending you a big hug ... always here if you want a chat ... Chrissie xx 

Chriss thank you, your the first person who seems to understand. Who has actually said something of support, rather than ignoring me. To be honest I'm lost, I don't feel I can carry on. It's a very lonely place to be at the moment. I feel I have lost everything, I pretend in front of dad all is okay yet it really really isn't, and I don't believe life will ever be more than it is now. This forum probably isn't for this, I shouldn't be feeling so sorry for myself, but I have no one else to talk too, and they say that talking is good. Tomorrow I have to go to the hospital with dad, he has prostate cancer and we have to see the consultant to see if it's going, or gone or even returned.... I don't know what to do or say if it's bad news...bless dad he's been through enough he doesn't need anything else surely. Sorry I'm going on again!!! Thank you so so much for listening and if you do have any other good ideas please voice them as on my own I'm drowning. Thank you. Abi xx