Hate Cancer!!

Hi Everyone, 

My Uncle/Godfather has been recently diagnosed with cancer, its in the liver, lymph nodes and oesophagus. It is terminal. I am absolutely heartbroken. He is a wonderful, kind and gentle loving man who has always been healthy pior. It has come as a massive shock to our family. 

He hasnt said much about it, he is being so brave about it all but now I can see he is getting fed up with it all, fed up with mediciations and fed up of feeling so crap. 

I lost my Auntie (47) to bowel cancer nearly 4 years ago and I still cant believe she is gone, she was like a second Mum to me. I just dont know how I will cope with losing another person who means the world to me. I dont know if I can watch him die but at the same time I want to be there for him and my Godmother. I pray he will have a painless and peaceful passing when the time does come. I worry about his wife (my Auntie/godmother) she will be all alone, they have no children. I know I will be there for her, but behind closed doors, how will she cope with the lose of her beloved husband? I just dont know. :(

I hope and pray one day a cure will be found for cancer. Too many precious lives young and old have been lost, families destroyed and heartbroken. So many people suffering, in pain and scared. Please one day, one day may a cure be found!! Thinking of all you wonderful courageous people who are battling cancer at the moment. Be strong! Bless you. 

I hate Cancer... I really really do!

  • Hi Colleen, 

    I'm so sorry to be welcoming to the forum under such sad circumstances but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Many members on the forum have also had to come to terms with receiving such news and hopefully some of them will be along when they can to offer their support and advice.

    Try not to let you mind get ahead of itself if you can. Instead try to stay in the moment and make as many memories as you can with your uncle/godfather and help him, and your auntie, to stay strong at this difficult time.  

    Best wishes to you all, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Steph, 

    Thank you for your reply and for your kind words. I should really concentrate on the present instead of what lies ahead. I do help them and visit them everyday, but with his condition worsening, I feel that I am in the way. Part of me wants to be there for them in the hard moments, but I think about how or if I can cope seeing him like that. I do not want to make things worse.

    You are right though. I need to try and be there for them and be strong. Its not easy, but I need to do it. I still cant believe it though, a few months ago he was a fine and fit healthy man. :( 

    Thank you Steph again. 

    Best wishes, Colleen.