I'm so sorry to read that your dad passed away last week samsunguk and on behalf of the Cancer Chat team I would like to offer your our sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Try not to be too hard on yourself samsung. The most important thing is that you were with your dad at the end and I'm sure this meant the world to him.

Many members here know how devastating it can be to lose a parent and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you.

We're here when you need us samsung and we will do what we can to help you at this difficult time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello samsunguk; sorry to read of your dad's death and the problems at the hospital which must have been distressing.   I don't think you need to feel guilt over your own health issues; your dad must have been very aware of them and loved you for the person you are.  I am sorry for any loss of time with your dad because of your issues but feel pretty sure your dad would not have held it against you.

I also am sorry that your dad was ill because of contact with asbestos - I believed that regulations had been in place for quite some time now - or perhaps he worked with it at a young age.  Very sad.

Please be a bit kinder to yourself - you are undeserving of any blame or guilt.  Annie

Thank you for your reply Annieliz x

I think they thought Dad worked with it maybe around 1970-1972 - my Dad was a carpenter, this profession has quite a high number of deaths due to asbestos.

Sadly, there is quite a number of schools here in the UK that still have asbestos in the buildings and there are many Teachers being diagnosed with Mesothelioma. Symptoms or signs of mesothelioma may not appear until 20 to 50 years (or more) after exposure to asbestos. I actually worked in a building myself that had asbestos in the late 90's - the building has now been demolished.