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Just got told mom has stage 4..terminal :(

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OMG   My mom is dying and it hurts . I just go told she has 6 months mabey a year. I am devistated. I dont eat ...sleep is only because of drugs. I am a mama's boy and mine is dying. I am 50 and she is 74.  I am always crying . My wife is trying to be there for me. I tell my 2 kids tomorrow.  I called her today and we talked. She has had a good day. I try not to cry around her is that normal..?

i am so sad................................................................................

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    Dear nikellty,

    I am so terribly sorry to hear your Mum's prognosis. It is all just so sad.

    Try to be kind to yourself and get as much rest as possible. It is only natural to feel upset/distressed so try, if you can, to take one day at a time. 

    Big hugs to you and your lovely Mum - you are in my thoughts.

     

     

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    My brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 Espohageal Cancer in Feb 2017. He is still with us and looks better than ever - although he needs a second course of chemotherapy and has now been fitted with a stent to make swallowing easier. Statistically he should have died last year, but he didn't. It is unlikely he will be with us at Christmas, but he may be. I went through some very difficult weeks when he was diagnosed, despite telling myself that he was the one with the serious diagnosis. Being sad, upset and crying are all natural reactions - after all, you love her very much. Stay hopeful, don't be dominated by the statistics and make sure that you treasure every moment that you have with mum. You can't do anything about her condition, but you can have a massive influence on the life that she still has left. My thoughts are with you and your mum
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    Dear nikellty

    I went through the exact same with my dear dad when he was diagnosed with unknown primary cancer stage 4 somewhere around the bile duct / liver area in January 2016. It was like a kick in the stomach,god knows how my dad dealt with this in his mind. 

    Although my dad had chemo he sadly passed away in September 2016, but once I got over the shock of my dad’s devastating diagnosis I then spent as much time taking him chemo , spending time with him and just trying to live normally without being upset around him which I feel gave him hope . 

    Spend as much time and plan nice things, no one knows a try prognosis so just keep planning one week at a time . 

    Take care

     

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