Hi there ... So sorry on the loss of your hubby, and what a hard time of year too ... 

Your daughter sounds lovely, and it's early days yet so you both are in the raw stage of grief ... Does her teacher and friends know what she's going through ... Maybe a word with her teacher who in turn could explain to the rest of her class ... As kids can be really kind and thoughtful and also can be crule .. so hopefully she has a good friend that may help her at this time ...

McMillan maybe able to give you info on how to get her counciling. They have a free phone number and there Mon to Fri .. She may need lots of hugs and T L C too ... You know it helps them if you can ask her if there's anything she wants to ask you ... And share a few tears together ... She may be frightened of loosing you too ... I can understand her not wanting to go .... Maybe a Dr can give her a note while she's going through so much .... There's also college courses she could do from September , where it maybe more manageable ... I did that for my son when he was diagnosed diabetic and he started getting a rough ride at school ... He did really well at college and doing good in his job hes nown37 and im so proud of him .....now  looking back, I'm so glad I did take him out main stream school..... Just a thought ...

Any ways I really hope she does well and if you hold on to each other you'll get there ... I bet your hubby is looking down on his two wonderful girls, and proud of you both ... Chrisie xx