I too have lost my mum to terminal Breast Cancer and she was only 69 when she died on the 7th April 2019 which is 4 days after my birthday so was quite cruel on me.

I think about Mum every day and sometimes I can not help but cry. I also do have my anxiety problems but have family and friends to support me.

Remember to stay strong and its useful to talk to someone even counselling helps when you feel down.

Take good care of yourself.

I too have lost my mum to terminal Breast Cancer and she was only 69 when she died on the 7th April 2019 which is 4 days after my birthday so was quite cruel on me.

I think about Mum every day and sometimes I can not help but cry. I also do have my anxiety problems but have family and friends to support me.

Remember to stay strong and its useful to talk to someone even counselling helps when you feel down.

Take good care of yourself.

I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your mom , all too soon ... I praise the strength you have to continue . 

I lost my mom on 26-6-19 at age 61 to cancer . 6 weeks after being diagnosed she was gone ... 

the numbness as you all say lasts a long time . I don’t know if this is me dealing with the loss and greif or I’m waiting for it to kick my *** in weeks to come ! 

i cry every day , sometimes you think you can handle it then it just wipes the floor with you ! If anyone wants to talk I’m here .....

Hiya Lightofheaven00.

I am so very sorry for your loss and at a young age.

I'm glad you have a supportive family around when you need it as you are bound to think of her everyday and be sad. That won't change as it's been almost 2 years since she died and 2 years today she was diagnosed and I still think of her every day. Hopefully with time the memories will make you smile too.

I like to think she's still with me and her spirit is watching over us, but I know people believe different things.

I have thought of counselling as my sister has seen someone, but I keep putting it off. Might have a re think.

Take care xxx

Hiya m3l4nie1982,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss and at such a young age. 

Everyone is different in the way they grieve and I have to admit I feel pretty much the same as I did mostly numb. I have good and bad days. 

It's 2 years today since she was diagnosed and it still doesn't feel real.

There is no time limit to grieving. Your mum was a massive part of your life and you are always going to think of her and miss her. Hopefully with time your memories will make you smile.

Take care xxx

Hi there,

Lying in bed trying to sleep looking at random things on how to deal with losing my Mum., Seen your post n realised what I'm.going through is normal .

Lost my mum 4 weeks ago and I'm finding it difficult to get my head around. 

My mum had been diagnosed with Polymyalgia Rheumatica January 20 , every time she tried to lower steroids she had a flare up , her body was in agony , happened every couple of months at 8mg coincidentally, I think this may of been Cancer . She would cry a lot due to the pain .

She had been struggling and tried to get doctors to listen to her for 3 months after not bring able to go for her walk end of September, she called every week , my mum couldn't put any weight on her right leg at all , was told to put ibuprofen gel on her knee it was wear and tear and to practice excersises which were excruciating for her.  I intervened calling doctors a few times expressing my concern as could see how bad it had gotten

Long story short..I stayed over a couple of nights with her as she had no mobility and doctors would not admit her to hospital saying they couldn't understand why she was in so much pain 

Mum has a bad fall on 3rd Dec n I had to get her to hospital ,- had cancer in brain, lungs , liver , adrenal gland, spine , breast and bones - her thigh bone had a fracture was ready to snap ..

5 weeks in hospital visiting her at a window before getting in when they told us she only had days left. She was in so much pain and had to be sedated, we were with her when she passed.

Pandemic being blamed for everything , Doctors not doing house calls due to covid,  had to wait 9 hours for an ambulance after my mum fell and banged her head .

Now clearing her 3 bed house she lived in for 26 years .Mum was 68 , I'm 43 and my sister is 35, we lost our dad 12 years ago to lung cancer ..

Feel overwhelmed at the minute , I hope  in time it Will subside slightly , miss her so much, I spoke with her every day  

Now awaiting a report from GP surgery as I do not wish someones family member to endure the pain my mum.wrbt through or ignored , there are so many folk slipping through the net due to COVID , it's unfair and inhumane. If unacceptable I will be logging s complaint.

Bit of s long story ! Sorry for going on a bit ....