Hi, I know that there have been various posts similar to this but I wanted to see if anyone out there has had a similar experience. Mum was diagnosed with cancer in both kidneys in 2016, she had radical surgery on the cancer which was complete in September 2017. She suffered from a hernia which was quite large and uncomfortable for her after this and also had carpel tunnel syndrome as a result of the surgery. Mum coped amazingly with these conditions as she believed the surgery had saved her life. We tried to carry on as normal and she saw both me and my sister get married. Mums cancer was high risk recurrence and she was terrified it would come back as was I. And it did. Mum started treatment in November on sutent for the cancer when it had spread to her lungs. She never asked for a prognosis and was determined to live as I found out I was pregnant in December and she so wanted to be a grandma more than anything- this is what breaks my heart. Mum got pneumonia at Xmas and never fully recovered - she couldn’t breathe properly since then which we were told were SE’s of her treatment. She was admitted back to hospital on Monday where she was treated again for pneumonia and stated antibiotics. Mum had a cardiac arrest and passed away Friday night. 

She was treated at a hospital in Manchester and I can’t help but feel that they should have got on top of the infection sooner and she may not have died. The docs said it was quick and she wouldn’t have  known anything about it- was this better than her dying of the cancer eventually? But then we have been robbed of time which I thought we had more of. She was my world. Not just my mum but my best friend. I don’t know how I’m going to cope I feel numb, angry and just feet sad. She thought she was getting better with the pneumonia and had faith that she would get right. I had prepared to lose mum to cancer in the next few months-years but not to a heart attack do suddenly. This has completely thrown me off gaurd.

I am heartbroken.