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Someone close passed away! :(

Teagan
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well... its hard to put into words right now what really happened on the 8th of April 2016 my dearest mother passed away! i know people might think its not that much of a big deal but it is... she was 46 and battling stage 4 lung cancer. she was given a long time to live but then on this horrible saturday i went down to visited her we had tea togerther and then she started feeling unwell. i asked her if she was alright and she turned around and said "i love you" and then she started coughing up loads of clotted blood. i rang the ambulance but by the time they got here she had already gone. it was the worst time of my whole entire life. The prounced her dead, and then we had to say goodbye! then before we had to say our final goodbye before we laid her to rest me and my older sister dressed her in the clothes she wanted to where and she loved these clothes... i just want some needing help to understand that she has passed away and that its not gonna be the same without her.... someone messaged me please :( night night mum rest in peace till we meet again one day <3 :(

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    Hello Teagan.  Welcome to this forum.  I was sorry to read of the shocking manner in which your dear Mum died .  The only good thing was that you were there with her when she died, shocking and painful as it was I think you would have been more distressed if she had died alone in this manner.  Even though you knew she was seriously ill you did not expect this to happen.

    Nothing prepares you for losing a loved parent; no matter if it is expected it is not something that you can cope with easily and the feelings can last a long time.  Also grieving is a very personal thing.  It can happen immediately, take a while to start happening and it can return when you think you are getting over it.  It is very personal to the person concerned.  You might want to consider ringing Cruse Bereavement Care (Freefone 0808 808 1677) who have a great understanding of grief in all its aspects.  Also you are very welcome to keep posting here and hear from others who have lost loved ones.   Annie

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    Hi there Teagen ... you only get one mum , and it is the second hardest pain we have, second only to loosing a child ... the early days it is like a raw pain, that's there all the time ... there's no easy way through, it's part of loving someone so much ... all those feelings are normal ... we go through them all in those early months ... but know your not alone, as lots of us have lost our much loved mum's and dads ..

    So I'm sending you a big big virtual hug ... Chrissie x

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