I am sooo very sorry for you. If that help I will light a candle for your beautiful wife. My thoughts are with you. I don't really know haw to help you, but shearing the news sometimes help. This way you are not on your own.
Oh my! How awful Pete!
I feel for you big time! I've lost all of my family but not my husband. I can only imagine the pain - no one knows what you're going through unless they've lost a spouse/partner. Please look after yourself as that is what your lovely wife would want.
Prayers and thoughts....
L x
it's so kind of your wife's family to support you so strongly. I'm so sorry you're feeling so alone.
I'm going to suggest something which may not be your cup of tea and is not for now but in a few months to a year's time from now - once you've had time to settle a little and heal a little.
Again, this may not be your thing (or you may already have one) but in about 10months to a year's time you could get a puppy - they're man's best friend. Jump on you when they see you, follow you around, are so happy to see you. You will need to walk it everyday which will help you get out of the house, get fresh air and socialise with other dog walkers. You'll also have someone to care for and who will love you back. You'll need to go shopping for the puppy too which again, will get you out of the house and into the community.
Till then you can look into the kinds of dogs there are out there and their temperaments and decide which one you would like - this will give you a temporary but healthy break from the your constant feelings and thoughts of loneliness.
Don't get a puppy too soon, you may not be ready to care for it yet - take care of yourself first.
Thank you for your lovely reply Mari it is so kind of you, You mention about maybe getting a puppy one day & I'll be honest with you.. From the last 2 weeks of Aug to the 1st 2 weeks of Sept my son was sent to prison then I had to make the heartbreaking decision & let my beloved chocolate lab go to sleep & then my beautiful wife was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer & then my darling wife lost her fight. I've never been in such a low place ever. Pete
Oh my! You've had almost every possible thing go wrong and you've lost everyone you care about. My mum (and us siblings) have had a bad year ourselves. Our brother passed away suddenly in his sleep in February this year, 8 months later our cousin dies in a car crash and just 6 eeeks after that our dad got diagnosed with stage 3 cancer.
honestly I'm surprised we're not complete basket cases - I do have my moments when I'm alone and it feels like there's no hope for my dad but I really do hope I'm wrong.
my mum has lost her son and now is the primary care giver to my dad when he used to be in the traditional role of head of the household.
i know you're hurting a lot but as a woman (this may not be comforting to you but will be to a lot of women out there) it's comforting to see a man still in love with his wife and that marriages really can last and be as strong as yours. All the divorces really make you think twice about marriage. You're a breath of fresh air and hope.
i married after a long time because I had lost faith in men and the concept of marriage these days.
im so sorry you lost your chocolate lab (they really are beautiful dogs) but please don't completely give up in the idea of a puppy a few months down the line. You seem like a very caring person who feels deeply and could really provide a vulnerable, full of life little pup who will give you the company and love you deserve.
try to visit your wife in the cemetery too and just chat to her (if you can).
Thank you Mari, My wife was also my bestfriend & I loved & care for her so much. In the last 29 years I have only done my pack up for work once & that was due to a silly argument which afterwards we would laugh about. I've been off work since sept because I didn't want her alone even tho she told me to go back to work I just wanted to be with her & fight this together just like we have everything else over the years, I'm stuck in a nightmare & can't wake up from it. I'll be honest with you & everyone else,, I do find this site so helpful indeed because I can open my problems & emotions to people who do understand.
