Hi, my name is karen im 49 yrs old and I lost my dad on 18th if this month to cancer of the oesophagus, with secondaries in his lungs.... feel so sad and lost.. so worried about my mum...
Hi, my name is karen im 49 yrs old and I lost my dad on 18th if this month to cancer of the oesophagus, with secondaries in his lungs.... feel so sad and lost.. so worried about my mum...
Hi there Karen... so so sorry about the loss of your lovely dad ... it's one of the hardest times of the year, I lost my mum a few weeks before Christmas a long time ago, but I remember how hard it was seeing everyone Xmas shopping, when all I wanted was mum back ... I'm sure your mum finds comfort having you close ... and one thing I found was talking about her ... if you and mum lean on each other and find a way of you both saying what's in your heart, then you will walk this path together ... the pain does get easier but you never stop missing them .... and all those feelings your having is normal ... it's part of loosing someone very special.....
So sending you a big virtual hug ...chrisie xx
Thankyou Mari so much for your kind words..i will try to take your advice. I hope your dad gets treatment quickly and that your are all supported as well as we were through it. Sending you love and hugs.
Karen xx
Hi Chrisie
Thankyou for caring and taking time to reply. I know things will get easier and were lucky we have such a close loving family... mum will be supported through this awful time and forever after. The grief I feel is a consequence of been a daddies girl all of my life but for that I am truly grateful... sending you love.
Karen Xxx
Just wanted to send you the last verse of a poem I love, that I hold in my heart ...from up there ...
I send you butterfly kisses, though you don't know I'm there ...
It's me peeking round the corner, just touching a strand of your hair ...
I really believe they are still looking over us, and so many times I've found things that make me wonder if they are somewhere close ... they just wait for when it's our turn, and we will see them again ... so just think what he would say to you now ... bet he's so proud of his girl ... my mum used to call me all the time, and sing I just called to say I love you ... and put the phone down, making me giggle, I still have a tear or two when it comes on the radio, 28 years later ... they always live in your heart, we just carry them with us ... chrisie xx
I know he wouldn't want me to be sad... but it's so hard when you miss them so much that your heart literally aches...
Thanks Karen.
How are you and your mum doing? Are you guys any better?
i can't stop crying or even enjoy myself. My mum told me the consultant said my dad has about 12 months even though the cancer hasn't broken out of his stomach, no spread to organs or peritoneum at all. He just has 2 distant small nodes that are cancerous.
Theyve refused to operate so are just going to treat him with cancer. I've been looking at survival figures and most studies show the people in my dad's situation survive 12months or just a little more.
Feels like a lost battle already. I'm a proper daddy's girl and always have been.
i was walking by the Thames today with colleagues, we had gone to the Christmas markets in all the Christmas atmosphere but every time I felt a little happy the sadness just took over.
12 months is not a good prognosis.
Although I am hoping he's one of the few that makes it past 5yrs and 10yrs.
Hi karen, im sorry for your loss. I lost my dad in may this year to lung cancer 6 weeks after diagnosis. It was a complete shock, its been one of the worst times of my life and like you i was worried a out my mum too, i feel talking about him helps loads. Sending hugs xx
Hi Nicola,
Thankyou for your reply.. how are you and your family now?? I get a feeling of dread with each day getting nearer to Christmas... xxx