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Paranoid about getting cancer after loosing brother and dad

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I’m 27 and have a 10months old daughter I lost my dad around 16months ago to lung cancer we were extremely close and I lost my brother 3 years ago to bowel cancer he was only 30. They both died less than 6 months after diagnosis as was both undetected untill stage 4. I’m a first time mum and after loosing them I have been suffering really bad with anxiety and paranoia some days I can’t even leave the house or drive my car. I watch things like STUTC and I’m paranoid cancers going to affect my family again. And I just feel like I’m going insane I’m not the same person I was before all this loss I have spent the last few days convinced I have cancer myself because I’m unwell I think I have the flu but I can’t help but add 2 and 2 together and get 200! I have a small lump behind my ear I have just found and I suffer with back ache and (if there are any men around this might be tmi) but since having a coil fitted I have two extremely heavy periods a month now and I’m just so worried for my health now. My husband and his family believe I’m irrational (his way of trying to calm me down I think) and I know in my head I probably am iv had swabs done at the Drs I have to go back for results next week. But I guess what I’m trying to get too is how am I supposed to carry on? I know how precious life is but any little illness myself or my daughter or family get I’m always immediately jumping to the worst possible conclusion and I don’t know how to get around this. I just feel like I’m loosing my mind! Anyone feel this way too? 

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    Hi there ... bless ya, no wonder you feel so scared ... this cancer does seem everywhere lately... but you have your little one, and although it will always be in the back of your mind, try to get it in perspective... or it will probably feel overwhelming.... cancer wants you to feel like this, it wants to take over every waking thought, drag us down and keep us there... it has no compassion no mercy... so if we live our life’s being terrified it sort of wins ... if you can find a way of saying o.k I might or might not get it one day, but I’m gonna live everyday loving life and making the most of being with your baby, ... and it doesn’t hurt to be cautious like you are ... but I bet your dads looking down saying come on lass, keep positive and your brother I’m sure would say the same to his wonderful sis ... 

    ive lost both my parents a long time ago, and now I’m watching my sister being taken by Alzheimer’s...  but wer all holding her hand and walking this journey with her ... I’ve got brest cancer too ... and know it would brake my heart to see my lads suffer when I go ... I’m sure I’ll be watching them, saying come on ... I still want to see you smiling and happy ... remember the good times ... so you hold on in there .. you are braver then you realise... just think of them watching you now ... sending you a big hug Chrisie ️ Xx

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    Hi 

    Not sure you'll reply to this as it's been many years since you posted this, but I'm currently going through the same thing as you. My dad passed away from Pancreatic cancer 3 years ago and it was a horrible thing to witness. My stepdad had prostate cancer which has no spread to his bones (although he's doing really well with chemo we don't know how long he's going to live in the future). My nan now has to go for a breast screening because she's been having pains. I am 25 years old and I feel like cancer is surrounding me. I'm terrified I'm going to get cancer and every little thing that is wrong with me I feel could be cancer even though it's highly unlikely. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. How did you deal with your ptsd ? 

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