Feeling lonely, lost both parents to lung cancer

Hi, this is all pretty new to me but feel I need to message/talk.  Lost my dad 26 years ago to lung cancer, and my mum 13months ago to same. Although I have a big family, I feel lost being the eldest (46) and trying to cope with mums recent passing. Try to be strong for everyone but when on my own the grief swarms me. Husband works shifts so when he’s on nights I struggle. Sometimes feel I can’t talk to him as his own dad is battling prostate cancer. A person who I have known longer than my own dad & love dearly. It’s hard to be strong x

 

  • Hi Shelly ... don’t think we ever get over losing our mums and dads ... we just learn to live with it ... I got my last call from my wonderful mum one Monday morning, she was going down town and I half heartedly offered to come pick her up as I was in the middle of all Monday morning housework.. she said not to worry as the bus stops outside her house .. last thing she said was “love you, see you tomorrow “ little did I know there would be no tomorrow.. she had fatal heart attach that afternoon .. I cryed every Monday morning for a couple of years, I never guessed why till one day I realised and knew it would brake her heart to see me crying...

    i believe although they are gone , they live forever in our hearts .. try and think what your mum would say if she saw your heart breaking... we were so lucky to have amazing parents some people will never know what’s that is like ... we were blessed ... don’t cry because you loose someone... smile because you had them in your life ... that saying really helped me ... still have a few tears esp when I hear “ I just called to say I love you” she used to sing it to me down the phone ...

    bless ya and hope you find some peace... big hug Chrisie x