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I lost my dad

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Hi, 

My dad passed away on 16th September, he had stomach and lung cancer. He fought so hard for 2 and a half years. I saw him every day, went to every appointment and was there when he took his last breath but it still doesn't feel real, I have cryed so many tears but still feel as though I will wake up and it all be a terrible nightmare.  It hurts so much, how do you recover from something like this, I need to go back to work on Monday and yet I am not ready to move forward yet, will I ever be?

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    Hi Emma ... I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad ... these early days are so painfull and going through all those feelings are normal ... it’s all part of loosing someone you love dearly ... like you I kept feeling and hopeing it was a dream and someone would say they hadn’t left ... can you get some counselling... now or maybe a bit later ... have you someone close you can talk too , though I know that can be hard when every one is hurting ... just think what he would tell you if he could see you now ...  I believe they can see us and watch over us through the years ... he will live in your heart forever ... no one can take that away ... just get up and get through that day , one day at a time ... my thoughts are with you and I’m sending you a big vertual hug little Emma ... ️ Xx

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    Hi Emma, sorry to hear about your loss.

    I understand what you are going through, we lost our Dad 4 weeks ago, in our case though it was a very short illness and he passed away only 7 weeks after being diagnosed. The up's and down's are far greater than i ever expected, some days I feel that i am starting to come to terms with it and then other day's just the thought of him or the sight of a photogrph can knock me back harder than I ever thought possible. I think the important thing is not to expect things to get better all at once, embrace the good days that will eventually come and accept the bad days for what they are. The last thing you proberbly feel like is work but it will help to distract you for a time. Although i have to admit I have spent time on the car park waiting to go in wondering what the point really is.

    Thoughts are with you and your family at this time. xx

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