just lost husband to stage 4 cancer

hello, everyone, I am from New York and came across this website that looks so helpful, on August 18th the love of my life passed away from stage 4 lung cancer that had spread to his liver, bones, and brain. This is the most painful thing I have ever gone through in my life, I feel so half empty without him. The crazy thing about it is we found out about cancer on August 1st by the 18th he passed away. Everything was such a shock and still is, it's killing me inside not having him here with me especially at night. I look at our four children and the thought that he won't be around for their growing up is unbearable. You know the symptoms did not start to show until July when he started complaining of his back, right shoulder, and arm, he went into the hospital on July 31st and on Aug 1st we found out about cancer, I thought he had months to a year, not two weeks can anyone else who has gone through this with a loved one please tell me how they deal and cope with this because I feel like I am going into depression I cry every day, I miss and love him so much we were together 16 years, I will never have another man like him  

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  • Hi, I lost my wife of 40 years to esophigus cancer on the 29th January 2020. What with the Caroa Virus desending on us i to am going through a very difficult time. It's like a double whamy, Thankfully i have many frieds around our village but the isolation due to the virus is very hard to bear. We now we must keep strong but it's very difficult in these circumstances.

  • Hello Paula.. I've just come across your post and i remember only to well just how you feel at this moment in time. I lost my wife just over 2 years ago and all i can say is there are lot's of kind people on here and it's partly because those kind people i was able to cope.