Finding it so hard to cope with loss of Mum & supporting Dad

i lost my amazing Mum nearly a year ago now & am still finding it so hard to believe that she's gone. She was so important to me, my best friend & we spent so much time together, She didn't become ill until 5 weeks before she died & had lung cancer that had already spread to her liver & brain. We were all so shocked. I miss her more than I can say. My Dad is devastated and very lonely. I see him every day & we speak on the phone every day too. I feel so sad for myself & so responsible for trying to make Dad cope too.  

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    Hi Sarie,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear about your Mum’s passing and extend my sincere sympathy to you and your Dad.

    Her death must have come as a terrible shock to you both when it occurred only 5 weeks after her initial diagnosis.

    I lost my own dear Mum many years ago to secondary breast cancer and those last months were harrowing to watch her deteriorate so quickly. I have now been unlucky enough to develop 2 bouts of breast cancer myself. Your Dad is lucky to have you, although I imagine that seeing him every day must take a lot out of you. Does he have any interests or hobbies that you could persuade him to join or to take up? Do you have any other family members or is there only the two of you?

    I know that this sounds trite, but things will gradually improve and you will eventually come to terms with this huge loss.

    There is always someone here whenever you feel like talking.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx