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Getting over Dad who died off Lung Cancer

Tjlayton
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Hi I am a 27 year old man whos dad died off lung cancer nearly 2 weeks ago, It was a very aggressive cancer and seen my dad go really bad really quick, I got brought up off my dad and never had much todo with my mam what has made it a bit harder, I do have 2 kids what keep me busy but I when I'm by myself its when its the worst and start over thinking how permanent it is and gets me worried that I have to live with this all my life so i came on here because talking to people who have lost one off the parents helps me more than anything because you dont know the feeling until it happens to you 

  • Hello Tjlayton,

    Please accept our sincerest condolences on the passing of your dad.

    We have some information here about coping with grief and we hope it will help you to come to terms with your loss.

    Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

    Best wishes,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hello. I lost my mum 2 weeks ago on Monday to lung cancer also. 

    I am the same as you, when I am on my own it's much worse. Especially at night when trying to sleep. 

    I still don't believe it's real. 

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    I feel your pain and I am so sorry.
    It just does not seem real. I am finding it so very hard to even get up or go to bed as everytime I wake I think she is gone! My Mum has gone and I do not know how to deal with it. My mind just keeps thinking about how much she is going to miss and how much time do I have left on this earth without her! One person wrote that each day was a step closer to being with their loved one. My mind is so overwhelmed and do not know if my 6yr old is enough to keep me going. My husband has lost 2 brothers one aged 36 and the other 41. I feel guilty talking to him. Saying that there is no life left in me!
    I am so sorry for your loss and such a young age. I am 36 and now classed as an adult orphan as I lost my Dad when I was 13.
    In the same boat as I have no friends that understand, they all have their parents or at least one still and are happy living such wonderful lives! :( 

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    I'm so sorry about everyone on here who's lost a parent, or both parents :-( I lost my dad from lung cancer 2 weeks ago today, he only started feeling poorly mid-July and died 6 days after being diagnosed. It's been such a shock.

    I know what you mean about friends not understanding, I feel very angry and jealous some days that they still have their dads. I'm 30 and some of my friends even still have their grandads so their children have a grandad and a great-grandad. I'm hoping to start a family in the next couple of years and it makes me so sad to think that my children won't even have a grandad let alone a great grandad

    Lots of love and strength to you all xx

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    Hi I'm 48 now I lost my dad in the year 2000 with lung cancer he was 61 I miss him every day my worry now is I have all the symptoms he had at my age 

  • Offline in reply to LollyPop87

    So sorry to hear that i was same age as you when i lost my dad I felt like an orphan 

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