A warm welcome to our forum, K_mcg01.

I'm so sorry for you loss.

Just know that even if you find difficult to talk to family right now, you're not alone. You will hopefully get to talk to many on this forum who have also lost a loved one to cancer in similar circumstances. It does help to speak to others who can understand what you are going through at the moment.

Our page on Coping with Grief explains the grieving process well and the different emotional stages many people go through.

Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

Best wishes,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi to you both, and so sorry about your Dad and Mum. I lost my dad to lung cancer 2 weeks ago today. It was very quick, he only started feeling unwell in mid-July and he was diagnosed on 1st August and died 6 days later. Still trying to deal with the shock really.

It does really help to talk to others in similar situations and to read everyone's stories, here if either of you need to chat xx

Hi there, I just want you to know that as much as this won't exactly help, you're not alone. My dad died painfully in March, 8 weeks after his diagnosis of terminal lung cancer. I feel lucky in a way that I had time to tell my dad just how much I loved him in that short time and show him that by being there for him. Please hold this dearly in your own heart too, for your support and love was felt by your dad. This is the only solace we have in dealing with a passing from a terminal illness. Some do not have this time. I too felt that my grief was only getting stronger and more painful. After the numb feeling you will start to process, which is hard. Your grief may reach a first peak. You may find that it comes in waves, sometimes easier, sometimes more difficult. Please remember, as I try to, that grief is just another word for love, and that what we are to each other never changes in death. I find it very difficult to comprehend the enormity of life and death now. Just after my dad passed I had my first child, a baby daughter who he never got to meet. The circle of life and death weighs me down heavily. But if we keep remembering how lucky we are to have had one another, we can try to move on with an ounce of positivity about life. I try to remember that some people have never been so lucky to have a dad. Please take care of yourself. Give yourself this time to grieve. We all need it and it is natural. Others do understand. From the daughter of one amazing man to another, Debbie

I lost my mum last year to throat cancer she got diagnosef in december died in February. I was there by her side and see that everyday i wake. I look at the good times not the times that im missing my mum was only 63. I was diagnosed in may this year with breast cancer and had a masectomy. I pray my mum is looking over me. Remember the good times look at pictures together and have a good weep by yourself then smile x