Grief

my mum died of cancer in December last year.  Together with my dad, i was in the hospital with her for the last 10 days of her life.  It was pretty intense and surreal, with my own family over 150 miles away.

although I am coping with daily working/family life, I still do not feel that I have accepted she hAs gone.  The final period was so stressful and unreal, once things got back to normal at home, that time seemed to belong to another time.  I have to remember, many times a day, that I cannot tell her what I was thinking, cannot share a photo or the latest achievement of one of my sons.

i'm not sure why I'm posting here really as I think I know it is just going to be a matter of time.  But wondered if anyone had felt the same and come out the other side.

  • Hi Julia,

    I am sorry to hear about your Mum - it is all so hard.

    My Dad died over five years ago and I miss him every day - he was an absolute gentleman. My son is now twelve and on many an occasion I have thought, let's phone Grandaddy, he will know the answer to that question - then I remember.

    Your Mummy will always be in your heart. X

  • Hi julia

     

    i lost my dad last week and can't believe he has gone. I was with him at the end but the last months have been so traumatic I don't think I will ever get over it but prey and hope in time I do. I think for you it's still early days but I totally understand how your feeling and think it's normal. Our parents are a huge part of our lives and without them life feels empty. I wish I could offer better advice but can hardly cope myself

     

    gid bless

     

    mary