Hiya I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I know exactly how your feeling we lost our dad last Tuesday after 9 months battling pancreatic cancer. Seeing such a strong powerful man reduced to someone I didn't recognise was absolutely heartbreaking. I prayed for him not to suffer so when he died at home surrounded by his family I thought I would feel relief.  I am happy for my dad being out of his suffering but emptiness I feel is awful. I miss him so much and just want him back as he once was. I know in time it's meant to get easier and hope to god it does. Your not alone in this and with the support from your family you will all get through this awful time together. 

Hello hun,

i know exactly how you feel, my darling dad passed away last night we was surrounded by his bedside at home holding his hand i gave him a kiss on his forhead and he took his last breath he looked so peaceful its a comfort to no we was with him till hes last breath. But Seeing my dad deteriote and change to how you described hardly recognisable due to the cancer has been the worst thing ive ever had to witness in my life. It still hasnt sunk in properly that hes gone ive cried rivers id do anything just to see him smile one more time and have one of his cuddles. Im just glad hes finally at peace now x

Dear Brokenhearted,

I am so sorry to hear that the end has finally come for your Dad and I offer my sincere condolences. I am glad to hear that he was at home and in the bosom of his family when he passed. This is what most of us would like, but sadly, not many of us achieve it.

I know how you feel. When I lost my Mum I was relieved that she was no longer suffering and in pain, but I was numb too. I then got into a 'doing mode' to notify family and friends and to arrange the funeral, etc. This kept me busy until after the funeral and then I was hit with the stark reality that she was really gone and that I would never see my wonderful Mum again.

I know that it is difficult, but try your best not to remember your Dad in his final weeks, but think of him in happier times. Do you have a good photo of him that you can put in a prominent place? I have one of my Mum and I often find myself talking to her as I pass it. I know that this sounds daft, but I get great comfort from that. I also believe in the life hereafter and look forward to meeting up with her again. In the meantime I am sure that she is still watching over the family and I encourage my family to do all that they can in this life to make her proud.

You sound like a very close family and I'm sure that you will support one another to get through this awful spell.

Thinking of you all and praying for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hello Jolamine darling,

thank you for your kind words, i have many happy memories of my dad which i will treasure forever he will always live on and never be forgotten. We have many photos of him around the house. I still have the awful image of him dying but hopefully with in time i will forget that i close my eyes and i see him how i remember him the handsome strong proud man with a big heart of gold. Im glad we was there with him to the end and he new how much he was dearly loved and appreciated thats a great comfort and to no he is now at peace.

i believe we will see our dear loved ones again when our time comes definetly. When they removed my dad from the house not long after when walking up the stairs i could smell my dad which was as if to say he is still here which was a massive comfort xx 

Dear Brokenhearted,

I know that it is so difficult to eradicate the images of your Dad in his last days. I don’t think that you will ever manage to do that completely, but somehow or other they will become less raw. I am glad that you have lots of pictures of him. You will find these of great solace in years to come.

You mention that you still got the smell of your Dad after he was removed from the house and found this a consolation because it felt as if he was still there. I hope that in the years to come you can imagine his presence by your side in everything you do and that this prompts you to make him proud of everything you do. Even for those who have a little belief, this can be of great comfort.

Thinking of you all.

Jolamine xx

Hi Brokenhearted,

I  am so sorry to hear this really sad news - my heart goes out to you and your family. X

Thanks for your message, i miss my dad terribly :'( :'( :'( i still cant believe hes gone.... </3 x

Hiya. 

I am so sorry it's so sad but I know like me it's a relief he's no long suffering. It's now our pain and suffering starts.but hopefully with time it will get better. When I went. Through it last week i thought I was the only one in the world suffering but being on here made me realise we are not alone and lots of people are going through the same thing. I'm just waiting for the funeral next Friday which I'm dreading but know it has to be done. It's only been just over a week i lost dad but  feels like a lifetime I just want my old dad back 

god bless you and know that our dads are in a better place 

mary xx

Hi Mary,

I am so sorry to learn of your dear Dad's passing - it is all just so very painful. My lovely Dad died in March 2012 and I miss him terribly. It does get easier but it is a hard old road.

Thinking of you.

God Bless. X

Hi Dunanat1

thank you for you kind words. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Its all so sad but know we will all meet up again 

mary x

Hiya just wondered how you were. My dads funeral was Friday and was so very hard. Passed in a bit of a blur but know if dad was looking he would have seen how many people adored him. I'm finding it so so hard at the moment and struggling to deal with it. Just want my dad back. Everyone keeps saying time is a great healer and I pray to god that I start to feel some sort of normal to soon. My mum is struggling so I'm trying to be strong for her. My inlet relief at the moment is knowing I will see him again one day. I'm off to church now which does help a little. 

God bless

mary 

Hi hun,

havent been on here in a while just still trying to come to terms with the loss of my daddy which has been very hard, we had his funeral yesterday which was very sad as was the final goodbye but tried to smile through the tears as im sure he would have been watching down and very proud. My mum also is finding it very hard she was with my dad for over 30 years and they adored eachother we are all truely heartbroken. My dad was one of a kind such a lovely man he would brighten up any room with his big personality he is truely missed.

How are you and how did your dads funeral go i no things will never be the same but i hope you are thinking of all the lovely memorys u had with your dad as memorys are all we have left until we meet again in heaven which we definetly will xx

Hi hun,

havent been on here in a while just still trying to come to terms with the loss of my daddy which has been very hard, we had his funeral yesterday which was very sad as was the final goodbye but tried to smile through the tears as im sure he would have been watching down and very proud. My mum also is finding it very hard she was with my dad for over 30 years and they adored eachother we are all truely heartbroken. My dad was one of a kind such a lovely man he would brighten up any room with his big personality he is truely missed.

How are you and how did your dads funeral go i no things will never be the same but i hope you are thinking of all the lovely memorys u had with your dad as memorys are all we have left until we meet again in heaven which we definetly will xx

Hiya oh bless you at least the funeral is over. I thought it would get easier after funeral but struggling more than ever. Actually on holiday at the moment and keep breaking down as it's not the same without dad. Trying to be strong for everyone but so hard. I know it will get easier and feel better knowing we are not alone. Maybe our dads are up there talking now who knows? Yes we will 100% see our dads again That's for sure. Xxxx

Yeah i know the feeling now feel back to square one and feel worse than ever, i have been looking at photos of my dad and watching videos of him singing they make me smile and proud i had him as my dad but i miss him so much just want him back. I have been waking up during the night not sleeping just crying i feel a right mess. My dad found it so easy to make friends he was so lovely and kind and just made everyone smile he had such a infectious personality everyone loved him so im sure they are probably both up there having a chat probably telling eachother how proud they are of us to of had such lovely daughters aww they are truly missed until we meet them again xx

Yes my dad was the same so friendly and funny people loved being around him. I went out last night and they played the two songs from dads funeral had to run out the restaurant. It was like dad was saying don't forget me 

i know they would be so proud of us and probably looking down saying come on girls pull yourselves together. Oh why is this all so hard just want the feeling to ease. Dad was only 69 and I look at older men in their 80's that look so well and think why couldn't my dad be like that 

feeling so so sad. 

Gid bless. I know they are up thier waiting for us 

mary x