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My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer friday may 26th 2017 it had spread, he tried to fight it but became unable to swallow anymore he was in alot of pain he had the drive fitted on friday 30th june 2017 he looks very peaceful just sleeps he doesnt move or speak its absolutely heartbreaking seeing him in this way i am devastated cant stop crying i honestly cant imagine life without him. He is at home surrounded by his family we sit there and talk to him hold his hand earlier we played some of his favourite music softly to him but we know now the drive has been fitted it will only be a matter of time before he passes  i am so scared of being without him and hearing his last breath x

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    Hi,

    Just to let you know that I am thinking of you all and praying that you manage to keep your Dad comfortable in his final days.

    It is so much better to have him at home and in the bosom of his family. This may sound very insensitive, but it is certainly not meant to be. My Mum died of secondary cancer after fighting it for 12 years. At the end it was really heart-breaking to watch her and I felt relieved for her when she was finally taken from us. The reason for this was that she suffered considerable pain in the latter stages, but when she went, I knew that she was at peace and out of pain.

    Kind regards,,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi,

    Just to let you know that I am thinking of you all and praying that you manage to keep your Dad comfortable in his final days.

    It is so much better to have him at home and in the bosom of his family. This may sound very insensitive, but it is certainly not meant to be. My Mum died of secondary cancer after fighting it for 12 years. At the end it was really heart-breaking to watch her and I felt relieved for her when she was finally taken from us. The reason for this was that she suffered considerable pain in the latter stages, but when she went, I knew that she was at peace and out of pain.

    Kind regards,,

    Jolamine xx

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    Thanks for your words, i agree it will be a relief as its so awful having too see him in such a fragile way with no quality of life my dad was always up and about full of beans now he cant move i just hope he is at peace very soon. We was all gathered round his bed earlier talking to him he moved his hand as if to tell us he is listening and tried to open his eyes its so heartbreaking my poor dad love him. i am sorry for the loss of your mum the pain of loosing a parent will never go away xx
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    Hi Brokenhearted,

    Doctors tell us that people who are in a coma can still hear conversations, so keep talking away to your Dad. Don't worry about crying so often. This is a good release valve, so let the tears flow, but try not to do so in front of your Dad.

    Yes, I will always miss my Mum but I could no longer bear to watch her suffer as she did and ended up praying for her end to come quickly.

    Stay strong and remember that we are always here.

    Regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

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    Hello Jolamine,

    I truely believe dad could still here us too the end as we asked him to signal to us if he could hear us by blinking his eyes or moving his thumb etc and he did that to respond to us.

    My dear darling dad sadly passed away last night we was all surrounded by his bedside me, my mum and sister held his hand to the end gave him a kiss and he took his last breath he looked so peaceful bless him. as much as we are devastated it was also a relief too see him no longer suffering and in pain. It still hasnt sunk in properly that hes gone. X

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