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Lost my dad

BethR1
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Hi all

I lost my dad yesterday after a short battle with aml, he was diagnosed after being rushed to hospital on the 1st of March this year.  He then spent the next 3 months in hospital having 2 rounds of intensive chemo and fighting infection after infection.  He was moved to the hospice Tuesday this week and passed yesterday with my mum, myself and my sister by his side.

I feel so lost.... I know he is better off now as he was in a sorry state towards the end, but I just wasn't ready for him to go.  I am glad I was there with him and he knew how loved he was, but I also am struggling with seeing my dad die.  I spent every single day by his side whilst he was away from and woke up this morning feeling like I had no purpose in life.  I would have done the hospital run every day for eternity if it meant I got to keep him.

I miss him so much

Beth

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    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. My Dad passed away 16 years ago this year. I just wanted to echo what BethR1 has said and add a little to it. I still hugely miss my Dad at times and still cry. However at some point you will begin to think back about him with fondness and remember all of the happy times. I know it sounds cliched but time really is a healer and the pain does go away. Don't feel bad about this. I know that my Dad would never have wanted me to be miserable for my whole life. I also remember feeling a sense of relief after the funeral was over (although the day itself was horrible.)

    Please let me know if I can help you with anything else. Emma xxxx

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    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. My Dad passed away 16 years ago this year. I just wanted to echo what BethR1 has said and add a little to it. I still hugely miss my Dad at times and still cry. However at some point you will begin to think back about him with fondness and remember all of the happy times. I know it sounds cliched but time really is a healer and the pain does go away. Don't feel bad about this. I know that my Dad would never have wanted me to be miserable for my whole life. I also remember feeling a sense of relief after the funeral was over (although the day itself was horrible.)

    Please let me know if I can help you with anything else. Emma xxxx

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    Hi Emma, thank you for your message, it has given me some hope that the pain will ease a little one day.  I am really struggling today,  finding it hard to deal with the funeral arrangements and all that goes with it.  I am trying to shield my mum, but I think it is to my own detriment.  We have the funeral next Monday and I am dreading it so much, I wasn't ready for him to go an  I don't feel ready to say goodbye xxx

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