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My son passed away from cancer a month ago

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My son struggled with cancer for 4 years and passed away last month. I am heartbroken and devastated.  I cannot believe this has happened .. I miss him so much.  The day before his funeral I was diagnosed with Advanced kidney cancer.  It was such a shock.  I had no symptoms just a pain in my left side which my GP thought was a pulled muscle.  Eventually I went for a scan and a tumour was found on my right kidney and the cancer had spread into my ribs on the left. I still cannot believe this is happening to me.  I am grieving so much that I can hardly think of myself.  How can I cope with both losing my beloved son and a diagnosis of Stage 4 cancer.  I started biological therapy yesterday  I am broken.  How can I now support my daughters to help them through their grief for their brother? 

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    Hi Knightysmare,

    Can I offer my sincere sympathy on the loss of your son? This is every parent’s worst nightmare and I am not at all surprised that you are still reeling from his passing. To then get the diagnosis that you received the day before his funeral must have been just the last straw.

    I lost my brother when he was just 24. It was a sporting accident that took him. Up to that moment he had always been perfectly healthy. I remember how totally devastated my mother was and she never really got over this to her dying day.

    I am glad to hear that you have started treatment. What ages are your daughters and do you have any grandchildren? I am sure that your daughters are probably more concerned with you at the moment than they are for their poor departed brother. That is not to make little of the loss of their  brother in any way, but you are their precious mother and they won’t want to lose you either.

    It is early days for you all yet. Grief takes a long time to overcome and affects people in different ways. I hope that you make good progress with your treatment and I shall say a prayer for all of you in the meantime.

    Do let us know how you get on. We are always here to support you if you need help.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Knightysmare,

    Can I offer my sincere sympathy on the loss of your son? This is every parent’s worst nightmare and I am not at all surprised that you are still reeling from his passing. To then get the diagnosis that you received the day before his funeral must have been just the last straw.

    I lost my brother when he was just 24. It was a sporting accident that took him. Up to that moment he had always been perfectly healthy. I remember how totally devastated my mother was and she never really got over this to her dying day.

    I am glad to hear that you have started treatment. What ages are your daughters and do you have any grandchildren? I am sure that your daughters are probably more concerned with you at the moment than they are for their poor departed brother. That is not to make little of the loss of their  brother in any way, but you are their precious mother and they won’t want to lose you either.

    It is early days for you all yet. Grief takes a long time to overcome and affects people in different ways. I hope that you make good progress with your treatment and I shall say a prayer for all of you in the meantime.

    Do let us know how you get on. We are always here to support you if you need help.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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