Hi so sorry to hear you news about your mothers cancer. My mother has terminal lung cancer and we are talking days at best now. My daughter is 18 and whilst not having the closeness of you and your mother her nana is her best friend and she can confide in my mother things she could never tell us. She is heartbroken but she was 8 when her grandfather also passed away with lung cancer so she to a degree knows what to expect. She also breaks down at the thought of what is going to happen. But that is ok. Because she is going to loose someone she loves so It's ok to do that and she also talks to us,friends and her school counsiller about it. And that does help her. Sharing her feelings and fears help her through this difficult time. Especially speaking to people who are going through similar circumstances of a similar age to her by using forums as advised by Steph We found that hard as it is talking to her nana about it helps in the long term. She is able to tell her how much she loves her which will become so important to her in Years to come You will feel like you are alone and scared but there are many others feeling as sacred as you are. I am 48 and Inam scared at what is going to Happen But realising your never alone in this and never will be and sharing feelings with others in a similar position to you will help. And remember that being brave and strong is not just staying strong all of the time but it is also breaking down and shedding tears but then getting back up again Best wishes to both of you Kevl