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My mum died over a year ago when I was 14.

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When my mum died I wasn't ready to talk to anyone about it not a counsellor, not my family and definitely not my friends I pretended like nothing had changed. I tried my hardest not to cry in front of my friends and limited the amount of people at school who knew. I'm pretty sure a few of my not so close friends have forgotten the whole thing and even sometimes my closest friends. I'm now ready and want to speak to my friends about it but can't find the words to start the conversation and I don't know what I want to say either. How do I start the conversation? I wish I had been ready to speak when everyone was offering but now no one is so I don't know what to do. I have had some more scary thoughts - none that I have taken action upon - and I really wish I could vent to someone about how much I miss and love my mum but I simply can't find the words. 

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    Hi effiel, 

    If you'd like to talk to another young person who knows what you're going through, there's a brilliant site called Hope Again that you might find helpful. It's a place where you can talk about your grief confidentially, and find lots of useful advice about coping emotionally.

    If you send a message to the site a young person will personally respond to you. It also has a links page with lots of information that you might find useful. 

    As davek has said, there's no 'right or wrong' way to grieve, and sharing your feelings in a safe supportive place is a really good place to start. Do you have a school counsellor that perhaps you would consider talking to, too? 

    Whatever you decide to do, we're hear to listen whenever you feel you need to talk. Take care,

    Helen

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    Thank you for that link, I do have a kind of school counsellor but its not the same as speaking to a friend i dont know? Even in that situation I never know what i want to say or how to start the conversation 

     

    Effie x

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