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My mum died over a year ago when I was 14.

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When my mum died I wasn't ready to talk to anyone about it not a counsellor, not my family and definitely not my friends I pretended like nothing had changed. I tried my hardest not to cry in front of my friends and limited the amount of people at school who knew. I'm pretty sure a few of my not so close friends have forgotten the whole thing and even sometimes my closest friends. I'm now ready and want to speak to my friends about it but can't find the words to start the conversation and I don't know what I want to say either. How do I start the conversation? I wish I had been ready to speak when everyone was offering but now no one is so I don't know what to do. I have had some more scary thoughts - none that I have taken action upon - and I really wish I could vent to someone about how much I miss and love my mum but I simply can't find the words. 

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    Hi Effiel,

    There is no right or wrong way to grieve, we all need to do it in our own way and in our own time. Sadly even when it feels as though our World is coming to an end almost everyone else's lives go on unaffected. We are all too good at hiding our emotions, so perhaps they can be forgiven for not noticing.

    You are right, you need somewhere safe to vent your feelings and someone to talk to about them. This is quite a good place to do that. If by scary thoughts you mean self-harm or suicide, you definitely need someone to talk to. The Samaritans might be a good place to start if your feelings take a dark turn - samaritans.org or phone 116123 from any phone.

    Best wishes

    Dave

     

     

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    Thank you for replying - Yes of course they can be forgiven I have hardly been trying to remind them in anyway! I have spoken to the samaritans a few times but I wish I could speak to one of my friends about it Effie x
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