Missing them

My younger brother aged 31, died very suddenly and unexpectadly from a massive heart attack caused by undiagnosed leukaemia. I was working overseas at the time and received the phone call in the middle of the night. The flight back to attend my brother's funeral was awful. I then had to return to my job overseas immediately after. I had no time to grieve with the rest of my family and friends. Two years ago, my best friend was diagnosed with cancer. By the time the diagnosis had been made it was so wide-spread there was little they could do except try to make her comfortable. She was given 6 months to live. She died almost 6 months to the day. Her funeral was on my birthday. I spent most of that last 6 months with her and we talked about so many things. I will always be grateful for the opportunity to spend that time with her, even though it was horrifically traumatic. Again, I was away from family as I lived and worked overseas. 

Upon my return to the UK I was met at the airport by my dad with the news that my mum had recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. She has now completed treatment (surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy) and has recovered very well.

It is hitting me hard now that the two people I would talk to about all of this, (my brother and my best friend) are not here. I miss them.

  • I just wanted to stop by and welcome you to the forum Sass although I'm sorry to hear about your brother and best friend and wanted to offer my condolences on their passings.

    I can't imagine how tough it must not having the two people you were closest to not here anymore but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Although we can't replace them we will always be here to help and listen whenever you want to chat. Also many members here will understand how you are feeling having lost their siblings and best friends to cancer and I'm sure they will be here soon to offer their support and advice.

    Post as much as you need to and feel free to chat to other members on their discussions as well as I'm sure they would love to hear from you.

    Kind Regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator