I think these feelings are perfectly normal, and happen regardless.  I lost my husband - he was being cared for in a hospital bed at home in our living room, so I barely left his side in the final few weeks, but I still feel regret - feeling like I didn't do enough, maybe didn't cuddle him enough, or talk to him enough (he wasn't lucid towards the end).... I am finding it very difficult to come to terms with our last few weeks and desperately wish I could have that time over again, but I think that is all a normal part of the grieving process.  xxx

Thanks for ur replay I am sorry for ur loss I was my dad's only daughter and me and my brother's aren't very close at the moment we are trying to sell my dad's house as this is what he wanted but it has caused a huge family feud and doesn't help my emotions I try talk to my partner however he still has both parents and doesn't really understand how I have regrets I just hope my dad understands I didn't want to leave him and that we(me and my little girl who was a grandas girl) miss him so much it still hurts I am sure ur husband was grateful that you were at his bed side day and night I remember when my mum passed at home my dad was with her and he said she would cling to his hand and he knew that was her way of saying goodbye as she was terrified right at the end (she was a strong headed women and never showed her softer side) xxxx