Can't cope anymore....

 

I feel so lonely at the moment and feel like everyone apart from me has forgotten all about my lovely mum already. 

My mum died in November 2016 of secondary breast cancer aged just 47. I'm 23 and Ive been dealing with everything ok up until now (just been keeping myself busy).... Everything has hit me like a ton of bricks.

I've dealt with first Christmas without mum and her first birthday without her here. But now my dads told me that he's been talking to an old girlfriend before my mum and him got together. And that they've actually gone away together, me and my brothers thought he'd gone on his own as that's what he wanted. (Now we know why) 

I never saw this coming, it's only been 3 months since mum passed. And to make matters worse it's someone who he's got history with which I think is making it worse for me. Also the place where they've gone is where my mum and dad were planning to go on holiday, and they're doing all the trips that mum and dad spoke of doing. It's like my mum is getting replaced. 

I don't know how to deal with this I really need my mum, and I miss her so much. Just wish she was still here and helping me plan my wedding...

Has anyone else been through anything like this? I really don't know what to do anymore. 

  • Hi steff, I noticed you'd not received a reply to your post yet so I just wanted to pop on and say hello. I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. What an incredibly tough time for you - it does seem like it can take a while for loss to truly hit us.

    You're doing the right thing in talking about your feelings. I know many members of the forum are going through similar experiences, and will be able to relate to the feelings you describe. If you feel able to, please do feel free to join other discussions - I spotted one of our new members talking about their Incredible mum, and thought of you. 

    It sounds like it'd be really helpful to talk to someone in confidence about how to deal with your feelings around dad's recent behaviour, too. My first thought is that Cruse Bereavement might be able to help. 

    Do let us know how you get on; we're here to talk to if you need us.

    Best wishes,

    Helen

    Cancer Chat Moderator