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Coping with the loss of Mum

Raymond88
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Hi all

I lost my Mum to cancer last month. Yesterday, we held the funeral and wake. It seems so surreal that she has gone and I have moments where I feel lost and don't know what to do.

I have the support of my family who through this tough time has bought us closer than ever.

I just wanted to reach out to others to, "love your loved ones and take everyday one step at a time" As Mum always said

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    Your mom seems like a great person.

    I feel for you. It takes time... I remember it took me a long time... and I have talked about her or thought of her constantly for 16 years... I discovered it brings me joy to talk about her because in a way it's like keeping her alive...

    take care 

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    I'm so sorry for you lose I feel the same hun iv got my mum's funeral next Friday she's died of cancer on the 27th of January it feels like my whole world has been ripped apart 

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    I know how you feel. I lost my mom to this cruel disease around 8 months ago and instead of things getting "better" it's doing the opposite. I think I have been in a daze for a long while but now its truely hit home.  

    Not sure I can offer you much comfort but I think you should live your life by the words of your very mother. I hope for you, and me, things will ease off somewhat in time and we can think of all the good times we had with our moms. This hole will never be filled but we just have to live with it the best we can and as your mom says "take everyday one step at a time".

    God Bless.

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    I went back to work today, yesterday I suppose I had too much time to reflect.

    I'm sure that it's a minor distraction, but each to their own in dealing with the loss.

    Thank you for your way of thinking and sharing this with me.

    All the members of our family that have passed will live on in both our hearts.

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    Hi Laura

    It's hard, however, I went back to work today and I've had moments where I reflect on what has happened, today is less painful, but still tears me apart inside.

    Reading up with coping with a loss has helped me realise that sometimes... 'it's okay not to be okay'

    Keep strong and remember that you have a loving network of support.

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    Antoni, your words of support I hold dear to my heart.

    Knowing that I can talk about the subject to others has given me relief. Today was difficult and I felt alone in the world for the first time in a long time.

    But other friends, family and even strangers will understand what you are going through.

    I will stay positive and thank you for your kind words of support.

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