Sister

My beautiful sister passed away in December, from a short but bravely fought battle with cancer. She was diagnosed with saliva gland cancer and had a ten hour operation to remove this along with the nerves in her face. However a few weeks later it returned with a vengence and spread to her lungs, brain and pretty much every where in between.  From the time of her op, she wasn't seen unitl 5 weeks later, as the docs said that she wouldn't need radiotherapy as they had got it all. She went to a routine appoinment and came away with a terminal diagnosis! She was gone in a few weeks. I am so angry as I feel so much more could have been done to help her, why wait for five weeks?! She was only in her40's and I am not sure how to move on from this. I feel like she was cheated and if only she had been seen sooner there might have been a chance.

  • I am so sorry for your loss. It seems unfair indeed.

    I am not a doctor so I can't answer you why 5 weeks... though in general when such a powerful metastasis occurs there is rarely any thing that can be done... at least for the very acute cases.

    Once more I am so sorry. Life is unfair...  try to honor her in any way you might think. Think of her and cary on her beautiful existence inside of you. Talk about her, share with others how wonderful she was.

    Did she have any children?

    Take care, 

  • Hi

    Thank you for your kind words. The logical side of me understands that there was probably nothing that could have been done, it was incredibly aggressive. 

    It was a horrific journey but she showed her true strength throughout the whole process. We have so many good memories of her that will stay with us.

     

    Yes, she has two boys x