Hi, my name is Jane and I lost my Dad to cancer at the end of last week... i am not sure how to cope... I'm overwhelmed and would just like to hear how other people have coped... I'm sorry to ask as it's so close to everybodies heart xx
Hi Jane
I'm so sorry that you have just lost your Dad. I don't know what else to say as I lost my Dad on 6th August 2016 and I know I'm not dealing with it properly. I have the support of my partner, which is invaluable, however he hasn't been through this yet so other than being there it's so hard to explain to him. I go through different stages, I'm ok for days then I'm so down. I believe I am just 'functioning' on a day to day basis as it's the only way to get through the days but the grief just comes from nowhere and it's like the breath is taken away from you. I lost my Dad to Leukeamia, I didn't know he was terminal. I think he knew but thought he had a bit longer.
Today is a bad day, which is how I found your post, and after reading it it has made me think that maybe sharing this will help. Maybe talking to people in the same situation is the best thing as it's only us that truly understand that feeling. Please don't feel obliged to reply, I feel like I've just off loaded and not advised but I'm here if you do
Hi, I am so sorry. Everyone here has went through it and all totally understand what you are going through. I lost dad last September, by the end he had been through so much he just kept asking me why he couldn't just slip away. It totally broke my heart. I still miss him every single day and my mum isn't coping, she is giving up. They were together from the age of 20 and dad was 84 when he passed away so she doesn't know any other way to live. He would want her to carry on but she just longs to be with him. It breaks my heart. I can only say to you take one day at a time, you'll have a lot of bad days and then bit by bit nicer times will start to creep in. There will still be days you will feel the hurt and long to see him, i do that quite often, even on Saturday i sat in my car at the cemetry and broke my heart, i just thought if I could just hug you once more. All these feelings are totally understandable. On the other hand some days I sti with my kids and we talk about papa and how silly he was with them making them laugh and carrying on with them and it makes me think about happier times. It will ease a bit over time but honestly give yourself time and take it day by day x
I'm so sorry to hear about you losing your dad. I lost my dad to gallbladder cancer one month ago. It would have been his 72nd birthday this Monday coming. He was only diagnosed last August, and given one year. He managed five months. Our world has fallen apart.
The pain is indescribable isn't it. It's like the world is whizing passed you at a hundred miles an hour, and you're stood still, surrounded in a bubble of pain and loss which no one else can possibly understand.
In the one month that's gone since we lost our amazing loving dad, I'm just taking it one day at a time, and probably more like one hour at a time. Eveything reminds me of dad, and my emotions are all over the place. Anger at some peoples petty insignificant 'dramas', loud noises, crowded places. Some days I just want to crawl up in to a ball on the floor and just scream and cry, knowing I'm never going to see him again.
Please know that you're not alone and I'm sure there are many on here who can help, or just listen when you need to to talk.
Wishing you all the best and you and your family lots of love.
Hi Jane, I lost my Mum to cancer on the 4th Feb. She was being treated for lung cancer last year and this year, but it turned out that quite rapidly it had spread. I got the shout to get to the hospital on the Friday night, by Sunday evening it was all over. It’s a strange thing, I feel like I’m in a bubble. Some things seem normal and others feel gut wrenchingly sad. I know it will get easier, but for now it all feels pretty ***. I totally understand you feeling overwhelmed, I think that’s just normal. Certainly how I feel.xx
I lost my dad on the 9th of Feb aswell I am not coping all to great and I'm quite young only 23 I'm still coping I really hope you can cope with it, I think being reminded your not alone
