Hi Jane I'm so sorry that you have just lost your Dad. I don't know what else to say as I lost my Dad on 6th August 2016 and I know I'm not dealing with it properly. I have the support of my partner, which is invaluable, however he hasn't been through this yet so other than being there it's so hard to explain to him. I go through different stages, I'm ok for days then I'm so down. I believe I am just 'functioning' on a day to day basis as it's the only way to get through the days but the grief just comes from nowhere and it's like the breath is taken away from you. I lost my Dad to Leukeamia, I didn't know he was terminal. I think he knew but thought he had a bit longer. Today is a bad day, which is how I found your post, and after reading it it has made me think that maybe sharing this will help. Maybe talking to people in the same situation is the best thing as it's only us that truly understand that feeling. Please don't feel obliged to reply, I feel like I've just off loaded and not advised but I'm here if you do

Hi, I am so sorry. Everyone here has went through it and all totally understand what you are going through. I lost dad last September, by the end he had been through so much he just kept asking me why he couldn't just slip away. It totally broke my heart. I still miss him every single day and my mum isn't coping, she is giving up. They were together from the age of 20 and dad was 84 when he passed away so she doesn't know any other way to live. He would want her to carry on but she just longs to be with him. It breaks my heart. I can only say to you take one day at a time, you'll have a lot of bad days and then bit by bit nicer times will start to creep in. There will still be days you will feel the hurt and long to see him, i do that quite often, even on Saturday i sat in my car at the cemetry and broke my heart, i just thought if I could just hug you once more. All these feelings are totally understandable. On the other hand some days I sti with my kids and we talk about papa and how silly he was with them making them laugh and carrying on with them and it makes me think about happier times. It will ease a bit over time but honestly give yourself time and take it day by day x

Hi Jane, I lost my Mum to cancer on the 4th Feb. She was being treated for lung cancer last year and this year, but it turned out that quite rapidly it had spread. I got the shout to get to the hospital on the Friday night, by Sunday evening it was all over. It’s a strange thing, I feel like I’m in a bubble. Some things seem normal and others feel gut wrenchingly sad. I know it will get easier, but for now it all feels pretty ***. I totally understand you feeling overwhelmed, I think that’s just normal. Certainly how I feel.xx