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The after effect on his after losing his mum

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My partner just lost his foster mum just before Christmas (19th) the funeral was on the 12th, I think it had all sunk in now for him. 

Ive notice a massive change in him, he's angry and has no patience for anyone or anything. He bursts out crying, in secret, which is very rare for him! I feel like he is pushing me away which I understand!

He is a stubborn guy and will not open up to me and will not talk about how he is feeling! I don't want him to get worse or slip into depression! 

I don't know how to help him without pushing him! I want to be there for him as he has little people to talk to! 

If i suggest a chat room like this he will just laugh in my face and say he doesn't need it! 

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    Everyone deals with grief differently and the anger and crying totally is normal. The best thing you can do is just understand and let him know you're there. Ask him how he is. He'll probably say he's fine and that's ok too, you can't push anyone. Just know anything you say or do isn't making it worse, it's shows you care. If you are worried that he might fall into depression talk to your GP who will be able to signpost local support services. You're doing the best you can and I'm sure he'll appreciate your support. Don't forget to look after yourself also. Much love to you xx 

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