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Mum passed away 3 weeks ago

Sheree86
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Hello to you all. My lovely mum passed away 3 weeks ago on 6th Jan she had ovarian cancer, she was only 55.  We've had the funeral and scattered her ashes. I just can't get my head around it all, she was my best friend and I really don't have a clue how I'm going to cope without her!! I've had mental health issues my whole adult life (i'm 30) she was the only one who truly understood me. I just want to see her face again and hear her voice one more time.... everyone tells me I'll feel better in time but I don't think I ever will!! 

Thanks for reading. 

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    Sorry to hear that Sheree.

    My mum also died on 6th Jan of Ovarian/Fallopian.

    such a horrible disease.

    Funeral is on Tuesday. I've added you as a friend.

    The world seems a worse place

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    So sorry for your loss. I lost my mum to cervical cancer in Dec 2015. People say it gets easier but when I don't know. Take each day as it comes. X

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    Hi there Jack, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum too. Hope all goes well on Tuesday. 

    My mum had serous ovarian cancer stage 4 at diagnosis, she lived an extra 18 months with treatment but chemo didn't work the second time round. You're right about it being a horrible disease, and watching someone you love so much dying of it well there are no words to describe it!

    Thanks for adding me as a friend :)

     

     

  • Offline in reply to Cuddlybunny

    Thank you and I'm so sorry for loss too.

    I'm just so sick of hearing the cliches from people,  I know they perhaps don't know what to say but I want my mum to be here in person not "in my heart" or  that "she's in a better place" :( 

     

     

     

  • Offline in reply to Sheree86
    Hi sherrie .... I know the feeling! My mum passed on 7th Jan she was only 49. She battled stage 4 breast cancer for 20 months. I am still in shock, life dosnt feel worth living now she's gone. People will say to me 'she's watching over you', and 'she's always with you' but I want her here in person, I want to make her dinner, I want to go shopping with her and I want her to nag at me because my cleaning isn't up to her standards!!! Trying to find a way to justify what's happened by telling myself she's out of pain .... but she should never have had to be in pain ... she became a grandmother in September and it breaks me she won't watch him grow up ... I hope your okay as can be, I won't say she's in your heart etc because I know it doesn't help .... I can say though I feel your pain :-( xxx
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    My mum was 56 and I was 26 at the time so I totally feel you. It's beyond ***, it's not fair and it's not right. If I could recommend something and I realise this is bold considering I don't know you, but please talk about how you're feeling. I know it seems pointless because it won't bring her back but I made the mistake of bottling it up for years. I didn't realise I was, I thought I was being really strong. It's only now, 7 years on after starting blogging that I feel I'm letting it out. Anyway don't mean to sound preachy! Sending you lots of love xx

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    this is all so familiar guys.

    when we organised her wake i had to leave the room:

    i don't care about sandwiches and sausage rolls!! i just want my mum!!

    and yeah, "she's looking down on you", "shell always be in your heart"

    i just want her with me in person!!

    so hard but i guess we have to cope somehow!

    x

  • Offline in reply to jack2015
    I have my mums funeral and wAke on Friday ... I know I will do her proud and try to celebrate as much as I can .... I'm only 26 and struggling with the idea that in 26 years time I will only be 52 and done that whole time without mum when realistically she should have been part of those next 26 years at least ... At times I think I don't want to go on now without her. Life seems all a bit pointless and then other times I think she'd want me to live my life !! Really struggling :-( My mind is boggled thinking where is she now? Is she happy if she's a spirit? Or is she angry she was taken too soon and wants to come back? Another part of me thinks she just fell asleep and knows I different
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    I understand Marie.

    the world seems a sadder place and all a bit pointless at the moment for me

     

    hope Friday goes well x

  • Offline in reply to Marie26

    Hi Marie just want to say that a lot of your post rings true with me too, like you I think about the extra years me and my mum could've had. It breaks my heart so much!!! 

    And about not wanting to go on without her struck a chord too, I've had some very dark thoughts that I just want to be with her again... Life seems like a very long and lonely thing right now. 

    But I'm going to at least try and carry on I'm just  not sure how yet! 

    Hope your mum's funeral goes as well as it can. 

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