My mum has terminal cancer

my mum has recently been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. It's been such a shock because in herself she has been in seemingly good health. Myself and my family are rising this so hard to deal with for all the usual reasons but I personally am finding it more difficult that she hasn't asked for a prognosis in terms of time and she is now accepting chemo to extend life. From the research I have done it seems this chemo is more likely to worsen quality of life and may only give her an extra few months. I respect her decision and I pray every day it is successful bit deep down I know she probably doesn't have long left. My dad is struggling and I am not really sure what to do. I often work abroad and I have no idea when to work and not and what sort of planning, research is needed.. I feel like I need to do something productive but I'm not sure what. I know the prognosis for terminal lung cancer can't be long.. Maybe months and I feel like as a family plans bed to be made but I don't want to sound insensitive. I can't imagine what the next few months has in store, I'm scared and feel constantly sick. I'm not really sure what I am hoping to get from this post I suppose it's just reassuring to know other people maybe have the same questions, worried etc? 

  • HI lou80 so sorry 2 read about u mum it so cruel I understand where u coming from so many question. My situation my mother who 71 two years been fighting bowel cancer she went for routine check up in July this year they found mass didn't know if it was on her bowel or ovary. Turned out it was on her bowel my mother was told the dreading news in October that it inoperable nothing they can . It's been so hard there have been tears and laugh on the way my mother don't want 2 know how long she got I think we taken each day it's so hard . My mother when she found out have sorted everything out I think that the hardest for me because it hit u that it going to happen. I can't inmage my life without my mother she always been there for everyone. The question still goes around in my head I can't stop myself from thinking why her there got 2 be somthing etc . I feel so helpless that all we can do is be there and spend much time as u can . It is hard watching someone u love go through this horrible deasie take care :(