How do you move on?

My name is Cath - My hubby, Steve, died in May 2016 - I am 64 now -  he first had oesophageal cancer in 2011, operated and removed - no treatment... all clear! - Then in Aug 2015 diagnosed with lung cancer - with COPD he was already compromised - had chemo and radiotherapy, and felt brilliant with it! - amazing - tumour shrunk - all good... then 5 months later it had returned and he had a very uncomfortable end.... what  a terrible illness - he tried so hard to beat it. It was my second marriage - 1st one for 25 years, then my eldest son died in a road accident, 12 weeks later my dad died, then 9 months later my husband left - when I married again I had the most perfect marriage for me, was so happy. Life now is just so hard - every day is just 'another day' - all the happiness has gone.

  • Hello

     

    you have clearly had significant and excruciatingly painful losses which have stacked up. One after another. 

     

    A loving husband wouldn't wish for you to refkect only on their pain and your loss. There are no quick fixes but lots of ways to start to find things to enjoy in life  everyone is different and whether you do things for yourself or for others you can find pleasure again  

     

     

    if you really can't find a way to see any positives at all, then I'd suggest seeing your GP or searching yourself for bereavement counselling

     

    i find mindfulness helps me. I've experienced a great deal of loss, yet I find that I can get pleasure out of simple things now. I stop and just take it in. I find myself smiling sometimes. 

     

    Different approaches work for different people. Your kisses are so new and raw. Just take your time.