Hi Venice,

I am really sorry for your loss, ilosing someone you love is the worse thing that you will ever experience in life. Tomorrow will make it 1 year since my Mum lost her husband, my Dad and we miss him terribly. Until he got cancer he was rarely ever sick and was even going to parties 3 weeks before he died, you would never have guessed this was a man approaching the end of this life but when he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer he deterioted really quickly and was gone, it shocked us to the core as we never expected this to happen.

The pain never goes away but you just somehow manage to live with it, even now a year later I experience all kinds of different emotions from guilt, anger, bitterness, sadness and hopelessness. There are some days it hits me that my Dad is gone and I can't stop crying! 

Just take each day as it comes along, don't force yourself to do too much! If you only manage to get out of bed and brush your teeth that is an accomplishment. Above all be kind to yourself.

I hope you find the strength to get through each day.

Thank you nelly, sorry I didn't reply sooner but my youngest daughter just left home the other one  already lived away from home,but I'm feeling so alone,my daughters just want to carry on as normal so I have let them but I can't help feel so sad about this inside,I know in time I won't feel like this  but at the moment it hurts so much that I don't want to see them for a while as I need to grieve.Thankyou again for your kind words and I I hope you and your mum stay close and continue to help each other through the pain.

                      Best wishes venice

Hi Venice, so sorry for your loss.

It is so hard, I lost my wife in June and live alone now, my kids live locally and I see them but it is still very lonely.

All I can suggest is take each day as it comes, it is a roller coaster though, some days better then others. Try and talk to friends and  relatives as I find this helps so much. Keep busy but take time out to reflect on the happy times you had. This can be upsetting but does get a little easier and stops you bottling things up. I did the bottling up and ended up in hospital for a heart problem, all ok now, but I learnt my lesson.

Chat away on her, it helps. 

Best wishes.

Hello no tail fox, I'm sorry for your loss too and thankyou for your advice.I feel so numb at the moment.my relatives all live far away and have been helpful but they cat cope with my grieve any more so I have told them to get on with their lives and I will sort mine out in time it is very hurtful but I realise that to get through my grieve is to be on my own.did your wife pass suddenly or were you prepared.I am glad your heart problem  is OK now but how awful for you .I am going to see a councilor soon just waiting for an appointment.take care

Hi I'm so sorry for your loss I lost my husband in July like you he was healthy right up until June when he was diagnosed with lung cancer he passed aw away 3 weeks later I to was in shock at how quick he deteriorated so it's not the only fact that we have lost them it's how quick it all happened, I miss him so much  and I can be in a crowded room but still feel so lonely without him,  there are so many mixed emotions and we all deal with differently, I have wonderful children and grandchildren and that helps, but life will never be the same but it does go on it has to, I struggle each day without him but I don't cry as much now but the loneliness is always there l do what I can to get through each day and we have to cope in our own way your not alone there are so many of us going through the loss of a loved on but I know you can vent your feelings on this forum and everyone understands so we are all here for you and each other I know it's helped me godbless stay strong Maria xx

Hi maria,thank you for your kind thoughts I am trying to stay strong  I just can't believe that it has only been 7 weeks and am sitting here on my own.I know I have to deal with my grieve and  need some space to do this .I know i won't feel as bad as I feel now in a few months but I don't think the heartache will ever go.I'm off to the dry cleaners to day I have been spring cleaning even though it is winter but it makes me feel a bit better.This sight does seem helpful and it's good to chat to others so please keep the chats coming.Best wishes to you Debbie.x