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Just found out my mum is going to die and I heartbroken

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I have had the shock of my life just found out my mum has a form of kidney cancer , that has spreads to her lymph glands and she can't be saved, they are going to give her chemo to give us a bit more time, to get used to it, my mum has been my support my best friend for the last 38 years, even though I am happy married with 3 kids . She has been my support network though my problems we have been though so much together and I really can't deal with the fact of her not being here no more 

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    So sorry about you mum I'm in silmer situation my mother got inoperable bowel cancer they can't do no more for here I'm 39 and she always there for me I can't inmage life without my mother . I know exactly how you feeling I was told in October that they couldn't do nothing my mother phoned me to tell me I couldn't believe it . I went straight to see here and that all we done was cry me and my 2 sisters. It like someone ripped my heart out . It's so hard been told news like this I went through different stages angry  why etc everything keeps going around in you head it's night mere . My mother doesn't want to know how long she got its so hard . I really feel for you it's horrible you not alone on here there be a lot people who going through silmer situation or lost loved one through cancer  . Take care 

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    Thank you so much god I am sorry for you Hun maybe we can keep in contact and try cheer each other up when we are going though the dark hours xx

  • Offline in reply to ben2012

    It happen all time on here it's so sad do you know how long you mum has . Anytime you need chat I'm here take care . x 

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    Hi so sorry. I lost my mum 3 days ago and I keep playing over regrets in my head, some about the times I should have made more time for her throughout her long battle some 13 years with breadt cancer, but she always responded to treatment and even when she was unwell each time after chemo we thought she would get better again. It all happened so suddenly and I never managed to have the conversation I have since wished I had so my only words of wisdom are be happy for the time you still have as a family together please try not to be sad and don't put those things off you all want to do you cant tell them when they are gone. Thought are with you Guy
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    Hi Guyp so sorry to read about you mum my heart goes out to you all losing someone we love or going to lose someone to cancer it's so not fair . It's the most horrible feeling ever . Take care :( 

  • Offline in reply to Gemini39

    Thank you it's my dad I'm worried about he has followed me like a shadow since and I need to return home after the weekend and he will be on his own but then I can grieve I am trying to stay strong for him 

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    We find out Tuesday if they can even do chemo just to give us a bit more time, but we don't hold much hope just trying to spend so much time together doing things like walks down the beach eating out going places, before she can't go anywhere it's been five days now , since we found out and I just can't stop crying so heartbroken xx

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    It's so hard isn't it you need to grieve together why is life so unfair x

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    Thank you just keep wondering is it a bad dream and going to snap out of it 

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    It's so hard When I found out about mother I didn't want to think about Christmas or buying present . It's so hard I still can't go shopping because I feel like everyone happy and I'm not how can you enjoy Christmas between what going on . Now I done all baby present online and today just put the tree up I'm all smiles outside but inside I'm crying . I went up mother last Thursday and she put few lights up and the Santa out all for the baby. It was hard to see when I left that all I done is cry I understand how you feeling . It's normal feeling the way do sometimes I'm walking around in bubble people are talking to me and I haven clue what they on about nothing makes sense to me if you see my mother you think it's nothing wrong with here it's so hard to act normal my heart breaking its sad hope you all ok . 

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