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After those who disapear what about Xmas invites?

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After we debated about why do a lot of people tend to disapear after they find out about cancer... what about Xmas and how to spend it???

´cause in my case, even some of my family has sort of disapeared and I may not want to spend the holidays with them either... How to cope with Christmas and more importantly with the people that gravitate around it... ?????

is is possible to spend Xmas with family when I don't feel like it? I mean: heyyyy! After all I've been through, WHY Should I want to do that ? But then, Should I spend it with my baby girl alone???

I feel going over friends isn't that normal either ... 

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    Base on my life experiences, going outside my comfort zone and reaching out is the most rewarding choice to make most of the time (and thats coming from an introvert person).

    Its a bit riskier, but its nothing that positive thinking (and living a less serious life) couldnt handle. If things didnt turn out as expected, i pick myself up and moved on, no regrets, only learned lesson and a better person (me)... its just like what you do when you are in a journey.

    Going safe and taking my time kinda helps me in finding and orienting my direction in life. But if im in serious bout of depression and self doubt, it will lead me to rumination, stagnation and a death spiral to being more depressed and afraid.

     

     

  • Offline in reply to JoyfulofJourney

    fear is your friend. sometimes it's telling you what to avoid, but sometimes it's also telling you what you should do. if you're in no immediate harm by doing it, then do it. sometimes people leave others alone thinking they want to be alone so reaching out will show otherwise.

  • Offline in reply to markmark

    That makes sense... And Thank you for your point of view.

    In my situation, the thing is I'm notre sure I want to be around some people anymore...

  • Offline in reply to JoyfulofJourney

    Hello,

    thanks for your post. I have to think of what you wrote... I usually get out of my comfort zone. But right now... Alone with a toddler... With No family left in the country how can I do that... I'm not sure...

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