My mum died and I can't cope with the loss

My mum died of liver cancer 9 months ago. I find each day unbearable and find it harder and harder. I can't sleep at night and break down all the time. I miss her so much and my life feels so empty without her. I have two children and I continue for their sake otherwise I wouldn't have the will to get out of bed each day as I feel so down. 

Does it get easier? because right now, it feels awful.

I keep thinking I need to tell mum this and remember she's gone and breakdown. I see people with their mothers and I envy them.

I feel so alone and helpless. Feel like part of me has died too and I struggle to get back up again.

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  • I lost my mum 20 years ago, when I was nine. And I’m not sure I have really ever dealt with it. But the fact that you have been able to recognise this early and share it with people shows that you are a strong person. No hippy nonsense here btw. I didn’t let anyone help me because I didn’t want anyone to take the place of my mum. So, I just shrugged it off for twenty years, until I realised that I was angry, heart broken and needed to talk about it. So I know that this was posted two years ago but well done and keep it up.

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  • I lost my mum 20 years ago, when I was nine. And I’m not sure I have really ever dealt with it. But the fact that you have been able to recognise this early and share it with people shows that you are a strong person. No hippy nonsense here btw. I didn’t let anyone help me because I didn’t want anyone to take the place of my mum. So, I just shrugged it off for twenty years, until I realised that I was angry, heart broken and needed to talk about it. So I know that this was posted two years ago but well done and keep it up.

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