i lost my mum a week today and feel exactly how u have descrbed i see ya post was nearly 2 years ago an dont even no iff u will get this message but plz iff u do let me no iff u feel any better as right now im seriously suicidal i cant live without my mum sorry ..just need help

I'm so sorry to read about your mum Dave and I would like to offer you my sincerest and heartfelt condolences on her passing.

Coping with grief is very tough, in fact I'd go as far as saying it's probably one of the hardest things anyone will face during their lifetime, but I really want you to know you are not alone. We have other members on the forum who are also grieving for the loss of their mothers so will know exactly how you are feeling at the moment. I'm going to include a link to their discussions here and here as I think chatting to them will really help.

As you've mentioned you're feeling suicidal I would strongly suggest getting in touch with your GP as soon as you can to let them know how you are feeling as they will do all they can to help you through this very difficult time. Many who are grieving have found night times to be the hardest part of the day so if you find yourself struggling or just needing someone to talk to then do give Samaritans a call. Their lines are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123. They are there to listen and provide a safe place to discuss what you're going through.

Many members such as [@Paulus]‍ have found bereavement councilling a great souce of comfort and support so that may be an area worth looking in to as well.

I can't begin to imagine how tough this must be for you Dave but the Cancer Chat community are here for you and can assure you that it will get better with time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I'm so sorry to read about your mum Dave and I would like to offer you my sincerest and heartfelt condolences on her passing.

Coping with grief is very tough, in fact I'd go as far as saying it's probably one of the hardest things anyone will face during their lifetime, but I really want you to know you are not alone. We have other members on the forum who are also grieving for the loss of their mothers so will know exactly how you are feeling at the moment. I'm going to include a link to their discussions here and here as I think chatting to them will really help.

As you've mentioned you're feeling suicidal I would strongly suggest getting in touch with your GP as soon as you can to let them know how you are feeling as they will do all they can to help you through this very difficult time. Many who are grieving have found night times to be the hardest part of the day so if you find yourself struggling or just needing someone to talk to then do give Samaritans a call. Their lines are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123. They are there to listen and provide a safe place to discuss what you're going through.

Many members such as [@Paulus]‍ have found bereavement councilling a great souce of comfort and support so that may be an area worth looking in to as well.

I can't begin to imagine how tough this must be for you Dave but the Cancer Chat community are here for you and can assure you that it will get better with time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Dave, iv just lost my mum 3 week back, i almost feel like im im limbo and the world is carring on without me, its such a surreal feeling, times i would chat with her and go to ring her and i can't, yet no one seems to want to remember her but me,  here to chat, JJ 

hi , i know exactly how you feel , i feel im the one the one who is pushed out of the family because of the the great loss i feel , i live on my own so i don;t feel like i have anyone to lean on on in these times of stress and loss. i miss my mum so much it's indescriblel as im sure you well know. there is no easy answer , oh how i wish there were it's a case of day by day, i feel for you ,little comfort i know , but there are plenty of us all in the same boat , please take care

pete