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My mum died and I can't cope with the loss

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My mum died of liver cancer 9 months ago. I find each day unbearable and find it harder and harder. I can't sleep at night and break down all the time. I miss her so much and my life feels so empty without her. I have two children and I continue for their sake otherwise I wouldn't have the will to get out of bed each day as I feel so down. 

Does it get easier? because right now, it feels awful.

I keep thinking I need to tell mum this and remember she's gone and breakdown. I see people with their mothers and I envy them.

I feel so alone and helpless. Feel like part of me has died too and I struggle to get back up again.

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    I lost my mom at 14 and its been three years. It gets a little easier but recently for me it feels like i lost her again. I've never had a grown up one to one conversation with her. She never saw me grow up and when i make accomplishments, i miss her even more. I can't bare to grow up anymore without her, leaving the world tonight. Glad to see others with similar pain

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    Hi Pawar, 

    I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your mom to cancer three years ago, and how difficult you are finding things at the moment. 

    Do you have a friend or family member you can talk to about how you’re feeling right now?

    The Samaritans are also just a phone call away. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123, so whenever you need a listening ear, someone will always be available to support you.

    Many of our members here will know what you are going through, having been in this position themselves with their parents and loved ones, and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you.

    We’re here to listen to you, Pawar, so do keep talking.

    With best wishes,

    Helen
    Cancer Chat moderator

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    Hi Pawar, 

    I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your mom to cancer three years ago, and how difficult you are finding things at the moment. 

    Do you have a friend or family member you can talk to about how you’re feeling right now?

    The Samaritans are also just a phone call away. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123, so whenever you need a listening ear, someone will always be available to support you.

    Many of our members here will know what you are going through, having been in this position themselves with their parents and loved ones, and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you.

    We’re here to listen to you, Pawar, so do keep talking.

    With best wishes,

    Helen
    Cancer Chat moderator

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