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I have lost my young husband

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My husband passed away 22 days ago. He was just 52. I am 46. We have two children aged 13 & 10. I am completely devastated and cannot stop thinking about him. He was only diagnosed in May and we didn't get chance to do anything or plan anything. Nobody told us it would be so quick. He was such a fit and healthy man I can't understand it. He was chatting away on bank holiday Monday and then they told me on the Tuesday he wouldn't wake up. He died on the Thursday and we never really spoke again. I was with him when he died, I was holding his hand, it was horrible. I am so incredibly sad. 

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    Hi, so sorry for your loss, I lost my partner Paul 5 weeks ago to bowel cancer.  He was also fit and healthy.  When we were told last April, it knocked up for six.  He was only 48, I'm 41, 42 in 14 days time. We weren't married but we were together for 23 years.  God I miss him so much, it's like half of me has died with him.  I don't think about the future anymore, just one day at a time.  He was my soulmate and best friend.  It's like we are in a bubble, looking out to the rest of the world carring on.  I know Paul would want me to carry on as best as I can, he was scared of dieiing. I held his hand until the end, made him feel safe and not scared.  Told him how much I loved him.  That will stay with me forever.  I was strong when I needed to be.  His funeral was beautiful, hopefully I made him proud.  I have his ashes at home, sent some of to be made into a ring and earrings.  You will have a lot of running around to do.  Try and get some rest, and take support of others when offered. Remember one day at a time.  Take care. Xxx

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    Hi, so sorry for your loss, I lost my partner Paul 5 weeks ago to bowel cancer.  He was also fit and healthy.  When we were told last April, it knocked up for six.  He was only 48, I'm 41, 42 in 14 days time. We weren't married but we were together for 23 years.  God I miss him so much, it's like half of me has died with him.  I don't think about the future anymore, just one day at a time.  He was my soulmate and best friend.  It's like we are in a bubble, looking out to the rest of the world carring on.  I know Paul would want me to carry on as best as I can, he was scared of dieiing. I held his hand until the end, made him feel safe and not scared.  Told him how much I loved him.  That will stay with me forever.  I was strong when I needed to be.  His funeral was beautiful, hopefully I made him proud.  I have his ashes at home, sent some of to be made into a ring and earrings.  You will have a lot of running around to do.  Try and get some rest, and take support of others when offered. Remember one day at a time.  Take care. Xxx

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