Hi there,

I'm truly sorry for your loss Lolly4daz.

I also had 6 months to say goodbye to my mum, however nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one.

I guess everyone will go through things in a different way - in my case, I thought I had found some closure after the funeral. It was a lovely ceremony and the day after I didn't cry, nor the day after...it felt like the well of tears had dried up and I felt like I was coping with things pretty well...

My mum passed away at the end of July and for 6 weeks I was almost "fine". But 10 days ago, emotions came back with a vengeance. I found myself sobbing like a child, pretty much every day on my commute to work, not that Londoners care anyway...I feel so so sad these days...

So to answer your question, I don't think the funerals will give you closure, it will just be the beginning of a long healing process, which will bring good days and bad days...

I can laugh with my partner one minute and the next I'm in tears, feeling all the emptiness mum left behind.

I'm sure it will get better with time, but it's going to be a long journey.

I really wish you all the very best as you start getting through this - it's fine to cry and it's fine to be angry, and it's fine to have fun. Just accept that emotions will take over your life for some time.

Warm regards

Hi there, av83,

Thank you so much for taking time to give me some advice. I really appreciate it.

The funeral was yesterday, it was hard but through it. It was a good day, tears and laughter. I still want to ring him, telling him about the gossip.

You are right, it is going to be a long hard recovery journey.

I wish you all the best, they say time heal. We have to take one step at time.

Kind regards