My dad just died a month ago

My dad was diagnosed with bladder cancer in October of 2015 and started chemo right away and treatments. In February the cancer was gone and there was no other cancers in his body. Then 3 weeks later he took a seizure on his kitchen floor. When they did a ct scan they noticed a Tumor on his brain. Then a small lump begun to appear on the left side of his head. He was rushed to the cancer clinic in June because he was losing his memory and he couldn't write or talk very well. I managed to be with him in the hospital for 7 days where they did a set of radiation hoping that the Tumor would shrink and then he might get all his things back. Luckily enough he radiation worked and a week later he was back to his normal self and the lump was shrinking. Me and my sister spent 3 weeks with him from the end of June to middle of July everything was going fine. When we left we thought everything was good and was waiting to hear what the specialist has to say in July 25. We heard all was well and then my dads sisters came from England to visit him and to there shock when they saw him he was swelled up to 3 times his normal size, he couldn't walk, couldn't talk and the lump on his head was like a horn with veins running through it. He wasn't breathing very well either. They returned to where they were staying at and the next day they received a call my dad was rushed to hospital because he couldn't breathe. They found a blood clot on his lung, a lesion on his liver and now there was 2 tumours on his brain. There was nothing they could do for him now and they offered for him to remain in hospital or go home for the remainder of his time. He passed away 2 days later in the hospital. We are all decestated and can't believe how quickly he was gone. He was 61 years old with no health issues until the bladder cancer 8 months earlier. Cancer is such a terrible disease and it goes so fast. Life is so short 

  • Hi louisecraig

     

    I am with you my friend, it really hurts and so raw.

    my fathers service is on Friday, and although I have seen him at rest, I still cannot believe he is gone.

    why make people go through chemo , install hope, and then they die.

    I have already learned to close my eyes and listen as my mind brings my dad to me, I am such a believer in the spirit world and do feel him still around, but it only brings a little comfort as I just want o see him properly.

    stay posted, we will all get through this pain together x

  • Hey there I'm new to this site but just reading some of the stories posted has made me realise I'm not alone. My amazing dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 20 months ago. He's fought so hard but last week was taken into a hospice and now we are losing him. He is not eating or drinking and just existing. He's so thin and has such a dark vacant look in his lovely brown eyes. I am so lost. I dread the day he's no longer here but I don't want to see him suffer any more. Every thought that fills my head is of my dad and how he was but also how he is now. I have to be strong as I have a 5 year old but I just don't know how to get through the pain :-(