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Morris1963
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I came on this site just over a month ago to say mum had just been diagnosed with lung/ liver and bone cancer and that she may only have months to live. She died a week later and 3 weeks on I still can't believe it . I am supposed to be at work this morning but the tears won't stop. I spoke to her every day and feel like I have lost a friend as well as my mum.

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    Hello Morris1963,

    We remember your posts very well and how worried you were about your mum. We are so sorry to hear the sad news. Our sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team.

    Our page on Coping with Grief  may help you understand the complex emotions you are feeling at the moment after losing a loved one. I hope you will get to talk to others on our forum who know exactly what you are going through at the moment and they will be able to share how tearful they also have felt.

    We are thinking of you during this difficult time.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    I'm so very sorry for your loss and I know how you are feeling. I just lost my dad too. 3 weeks ago and I'm struggling and having a very hard time getting past it. It happened so fast and without any warning. Just like you. I really don't know how I've got to today. Because every day is like waking to a nightmare that never ends. I wake up all the time thinking I'm just in a really bad dream and that he not really gone. But he is and it hurts so badly. I've never felt anything like this at all. Just like I'm sure you feel too because the pain is most probably the same. I just want you to know that you are not alone and that there is other people out here that are going through the same as you are and know that I am here for you if you need to talk to anyone. I believe we have something in common and that we can help one another get through at least today anyways and as long as we keep getting through each day one at at time we are at least moving forward. Take care xoxo

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    I, too, found myself on this page about a month ago when my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. Stage 4. It spread to basically everywhere in her body. We haven't been given a time diagnosis. I do understand how you are feeling. It feels like your whole world has been ripped away with that diagnosis. None of it seems fair. All I can say is that at one point, the memories won't be sad ones. You will be able to look back on her time with you and smile. Not feel lost. One day, the pain of missing her won't go away. But the happiness that was shared will b what is present. There's always a lending ear on here with tons of people who understand. I've come to learn that. People here are always willing to help, and we all have some level of common ground.

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